LIFE COACHING SERVICES - Without a father figure, mentor, or someone with real life experience who you feel that you can confide in openly without fear of rejection or ridicule, men are too often left to suffer in silence and deal with difficulties in life and their marriage alone. You and your buddies might talk about sports, cars, jobs, and all the things that make you feel like a man, but when it comes time to talk about negativity or concerns, especially in a family setting where your so called friends don’t want anyone to think their marriage is less than perfect, most men will not talk about their fears and unhappiness even to their best friends. This is too often because men do not want to appear weak, don’t have friends that they believe will respond positively, don’t have the confidence to express themselves, or just believe they can handle it alone because they are a man and that is what men do.
Women are the exact opposite. They will go get counseling and spill their guts especially to female counselors. In addition to perceived problems that most men deal with every day without the thought of counseling, women will tell their inner most secrets to these counselors because they do not want their closest friends or family to know about them. They will get this counseling often without their husband knowing it because they prefer to talk to a female stranger instead of their own husband, even one who is supportive and a good communicator. If your wife’s family or close friends don’t show up to a highly contested child custody hearing and she instead relies on counselors or often people she barely knows to get her an advantage in court, her secrets likely go beyond your wildest negative thoughts. You need your own option and nothing better than with someone who has been through the wars of child custody and divorce as well as many ups and downs of life.
For example, assuming she's even quality enough not to make up lies about you to make herself feel better or justify her bad behavior or deprive you of your kids, imagine the following interaction between your wife and her counselor:
Your wife: “He's a good man. He's loving. He's great with the kids, and he's a good provider. He's even good looking, lots of other women are attracted to him, and if he cheated id be angry.
Therapist: “ Then why are you staying up all night on the computer talking to strangers and having sexual trysts with men you barely know instead of spending time with your husband?
Your Wife: “He's just not that exciting to me anymore. He goes to work at the same time every day and comes home at the same time every night. He keeps our yard looking nice on the weekends and even tries to spend time with the kids who think he's a great dad. He is even clean and does not make our house dirty at all which helps because I am unable to keep anything organized or our house clean despite being a housewife with no job outside the home or financial worries.
Therapist: Why don’t you tell him about how you feel or why you aren’t keeping your house clean and coming to bed until 3am despite being a stay at home mom where it seems you have everything provided for you to be the best mom and spouse possible?
Your Wife: I don’t want to hurt him by telling him what I am doing and I don’t want to hurt my kids or the family. I also don’t want him to find out about my cheating, online addictions, or my behavior at the gym I go to at because then I will lose my alimony. Plus if I don’t divorce him and stay in the home and keep doing what I want while he works hard to provide for me while being oblivious to my behavior, he will keep earning and saving money which will ultimately get me a higher payout once I decide he has earned enough so I can comfortably divorce him or if heaven forbid he finds out about my secrets and decides to leave which I don’t think he would do because he knows I wouldn’t let him see our young daughters but two days a month.
Therapist: You are pretty smart. Where did you learn this?
Your Wife: The consultation I had with a divorce lawyer the day after I got married, and my prior therapists.
Until you as a man understand the mind of a woman and what she is doing, you will keep being run around with trivial deflections, often involving withholding of affection or sex, and her gaslighting the minute you confront her with her behavior. She knows if the marriage breaks up you lose so don’t think by her not initiating it, she is happy and has your best interests at heart.
All this is going on while she begins planning her exit strategy before you do still giving you that fake smile and a “Welcome home” as you walk through the door after a tough day at work feeling even more defeated as you see the home you worked hard for littered with clutter and dirty dishes wondering what your spouse does all day.
When you are going through a divorce or even trying to prevent one, the right life coach for a man can be life changing and most importantly, someone that can help you get through something you cannot control and often want no part of but once you understand how women think, you are best able to plan and move forward. Your mental health should not be ignored and how you respond to the trauma of family break up and divorce mentally can be just as important if not more so than the financial aspect of things.
Many men have also been through the divorce process and it did not go the way they want. Gone is his money, his quality of life, and he too often sees his kids less and is a victim of parental alienation. He also sees how horrible his ex wife is yet the men are lined up for dates while he struggles and is accused by new women he meets as being another man out for just sex. He stares the realities of feminism in the face and his reduced lifestyle, and needs someone to right his ship mentally.
Women are the exact opposite. They will go get counseling and spill their guts especially to female counselors. In addition to perceived problems that most men deal with every day without the thought of counseling, women will tell their inner most secrets to these counselors because they do not want their closest friends or family to know about them. They will get this counseling often without their husband knowing it because they prefer to talk to a female stranger instead of their own husband, even one who is supportive and a good communicator. If your wife’s family or close friends don’t show up to a highly contested child custody hearing and she instead relies on counselors or often people she barely knows to get her an advantage in court, her secrets likely go beyond your wildest negative thoughts. You need your own option and nothing better than with someone who has been through the wars of child custody and divorce as well as many ups and downs of life.
For example, assuming she's even quality enough not to make up lies about you to make herself feel better or justify her bad behavior or deprive you of your kids, imagine the following interaction between your wife and her counselor:
Your wife: “He's a good man. He's loving. He's great with the kids, and he's a good provider. He's even good looking, lots of other women are attracted to him, and if he cheated id be angry.
Therapist: “ Then why are you staying up all night on the computer talking to strangers and having sexual trysts with men you barely know instead of spending time with your husband?
Your Wife: “He's just not that exciting to me anymore. He goes to work at the same time every day and comes home at the same time every night. He keeps our yard looking nice on the weekends and even tries to spend time with the kids who think he's a great dad. He is even clean and does not make our house dirty at all which helps because I am unable to keep anything organized or our house clean despite being a housewife with no job outside the home or financial worries.
Therapist: Why don’t you tell him about how you feel or why you aren’t keeping your house clean and coming to bed until 3am despite being a stay at home mom where it seems you have everything provided for you to be the best mom and spouse possible?
Your Wife: I don’t want to hurt him by telling him what I am doing and I don’t want to hurt my kids or the family. I also don’t want him to find out about my cheating, online addictions, or my behavior at the gym I go to at because then I will lose my alimony. Plus if I don’t divorce him and stay in the home and keep doing what I want while he works hard to provide for me while being oblivious to my behavior, he will keep earning and saving money which will ultimately get me a higher payout once I decide he has earned enough so I can comfortably divorce him or if heaven forbid he finds out about my secrets and decides to leave which I don’t think he would do because he knows I wouldn’t let him see our young daughters but two days a month.
Therapist: You are pretty smart. Where did you learn this?
Your Wife: The consultation I had with a divorce lawyer the day after I got married, and my prior therapists.
Until you as a man understand the mind of a woman and what she is doing, you will keep being run around with trivial deflections, often involving withholding of affection or sex, and her gaslighting the minute you confront her with her behavior. She knows if the marriage breaks up you lose so don’t think by her not initiating it, she is happy and has your best interests at heart.
All this is going on while she begins planning her exit strategy before you do still giving you that fake smile and a “Welcome home” as you walk through the door after a tough day at work feeling even more defeated as you see the home you worked hard for littered with clutter and dirty dishes wondering what your spouse does all day.
When you are going through a divorce or even trying to prevent one, the right life coach for a man can be life changing and most importantly, someone that can help you get through something you cannot control and often want no part of but once you understand how women think, you are best able to plan and move forward. Your mental health should not be ignored and how you respond to the trauma of family break up and divorce mentally can be just as important if not more so than the financial aspect of things.
Many men have also been through the divorce process and it did not go the way they want. Gone is his money, his quality of life, and he too often sees his kids less and is a victim of parental alienation. He also sees how horrible his ex wife is yet the men are lined up for dates while he struggles and is accused by new women he meets as being another man out for just sex. He stares the realities of feminism in the face and his reduced lifestyle, and needs someone to right his ship mentally.
