Wifes Lawyer(or Two)- While every lawyer wants to win the case for his or her client, your wife will find that special lawyer who could care less what is in the best interest of the kids. This lawyer will do all they can to make you appear to be the biggest piece of garbage on the planet no matter how high your character and success. If they don't have you as a cheater or an alcoholic, they will make it seem like you are the worst father or husband possible all while ignoring their narcissist or B.P.D. clients behavior. The more money she has available to pay them, the more they will do. They want the billable hours to be as much as possible often brining two lawyers to the court hearings to fight the one you can barely afford to pay. They want to increase the amount charged your wife because she is ultimately going to ask the court to make you pay for her lawyers fees and if that is not successful, they will certainly know very quickly what the wifes divorce settlement will be and can get it from that sum of money.
These lawyers she hires are the best at shaming you and antagonizing you so you will lose your cool and give them further argument to tell the Judge you are not worthy of equal time with your kids. They will often send your lawyer a letter asking for huge financial sums each month while offering you two days overnight per month with your kids even when you have been exemplary as a father and a man and their female client has traits or behavior that if you had, they would ask for supervised visits. This is done to shame you and your lawyer into settling financial and custodial matters in a way that is unfavorable to you which you often regret once the smoke has cleared. The strength and ability to do this is emboldened by the fact that if you fight it to trial, you are spending more money, risking the odds of being stuck with your wife's legal fees, and a system that has been trained to give the woman more of what she wants. Legal skills aside, your wife's lawyers will be the best and emotional manipulation and could care less about what is in the best interests of your kids. Its about winning and billing.
While this might seem a bit extreme, if you have a spouse that you cannot agree with over money, and more importantly custody, you need to prepare yourself mentally for what is coming.
These lawyers she hires are the best at shaming you and antagonizing you so you will lose your cool and give them further argument to tell the Judge you are not worthy of equal time with your kids. They will often send your lawyer a letter asking for huge financial sums each month while offering you two days overnight per month with your kids even when you have been exemplary as a father and a man and their female client has traits or behavior that if you had, they would ask for supervised visits. This is done to shame you and your lawyer into settling financial and custodial matters in a way that is unfavorable to you which you often regret once the smoke has cleared. The strength and ability to do this is emboldened by the fact that if you fight it to trial, you are spending more money, risking the odds of being stuck with your wife's legal fees, and a system that has been trained to give the woman more of what she wants. Legal skills aside, your wife's lawyers will be the best and emotional manipulation and could care less about what is in the best interests of your kids. Its about winning and billing.
While this might seem a bit extreme, if you have a spouse that you cannot agree with over money, and more importantly custody, you need to prepare yourself mentally for what is coming.