Your Lawyer- Although your level of success and your wifes ability to use it against you, combined with how you behave throughout the process will go a long way to determine how the financial division of assets, child custody, and child support will resolve, your lawyers job is to do everything to put you in the best position to win. Winning this game in most cases is not leaving your wife broke with no assets despite all the war stories you hear from men who have embellished how they screwed their wife in a divorce. Winning is minimizing the financial loss and getting you the maximum custody time with your kids. Therefore your lawyer is everything if he or she is a good lawyer.
Lawyers will tell you they aren’t your shrink and don’t bother them with your emotional issues. Lawyers in fact are your shrink, your friend, and your legal advocate even if it is just temporary while the process plays out. If they are all these things then you will feel better about your team. If your lawyer is cold, emotionally dead for a variety of reasons, or flat out smug because they are taking you on as a client because you can pay them even if they don’t agree with your goals, your team will not do as well. Lawyers are too often overworked and the experienced ones have seen every type of fact pattern, are emotionally numb to clients whining and complaining, and you can ruin a good relationship with a lawyer who genuinely wants to help you with non stop emails and calls to his office. If you understand this, you can help your lawyer help you better.
All lawyers love to bill for their time and it is going to cost you money to fight your spouse. Even the good lawyers who aren’t going to nickel and dime you every time they think about your case while they are at the beach don’t work for free. Your lawyer should be available for real conversations, real life honest advice, and everything possible to keep your mental spirit strong while also not hiding the reality of what you are facing. The strength of your lawyers advice should be so good that you as the client don’t need to call, text, or email incessantly(which causes your bill to go up) because you know what you are facing, your lawyer has told you the good and the bad, and you are your strongest person mentally you can be because your lawyer has done his job correctly. Lawyers cant promise results or guarantee what will happen in your specific case, but you will face the end result a lot easier if you felt like your lawyer did everything he needed to do which goes beyond crunching numbers or telling you a certain judge wont give you equal custody so you should take this custody agreement and sign it without going to court. Think about the big picture when you interview lawyers for your team.
Interview multiple lawyers before hiring one and find the one that best fits your personality and goals. No matter who you choose to represent you, do the best you can to allow the lawyer to focus on you and your case with as little wasted time and resources as possible.
Lawyers will tell you they aren’t your shrink and don’t bother them with your emotional issues. Lawyers in fact are your shrink, your friend, and your legal advocate even if it is just temporary while the process plays out. If they are all these things then you will feel better about your team. If your lawyer is cold, emotionally dead for a variety of reasons, or flat out smug because they are taking you on as a client because you can pay them even if they don’t agree with your goals, your team will not do as well. Lawyers are too often overworked and the experienced ones have seen every type of fact pattern, are emotionally numb to clients whining and complaining, and you can ruin a good relationship with a lawyer who genuinely wants to help you with non stop emails and calls to his office. If you understand this, you can help your lawyer help you better.
All lawyers love to bill for their time and it is going to cost you money to fight your spouse. Even the good lawyers who aren’t going to nickel and dime you every time they think about your case while they are at the beach don’t work for free. Your lawyer should be available for real conversations, real life honest advice, and everything possible to keep your mental spirit strong while also not hiding the reality of what you are facing. The strength of your lawyers advice should be so good that you as the client don’t need to call, text, or email incessantly(which causes your bill to go up) because you know what you are facing, your lawyer has told you the good and the bad, and you are your strongest person mentally you can be because your lawyer has done his job correctly. Lawyers cant promise results or guarantee what will happen in your specific case, but you will face the end result a lot easier if you felt like your lawyer did everything he needed to do which goes beyond crunching numbers or telling you a certain judge wont give you equal custody so you should take this custody agreement and sign it without going to court. Think about the big picture when you interview lawyers for your team.
Interview multiple lawyers before hiring one and find the one that best fits your personality and goals. No matter who you choose to represent you, do the best you can to allow the lawyer to focus on you and your case with as little wasted time and resources as possible.
