READ THIS FIRST - If you are googling terms like “Divorce”, “Child Support”, Alimony”, and “Lawyer”, you are either very smart and forward thinking or in a whole heap of trouble. Unfortunately most men are searching these words because their marriage is over. They think some slick lawyer is going to save all their assets. The man's soon to be ex wife now wants half or more of everything and is probably making the money disappear while you decide what to do. Indecisiveness will only further a man's demise.
As you decide how to move the process forward, understand you will soon be entering a system filled with people who too often have no problem watching you implode financially and mentally without any thought of what is fair or in the best interests of your kids. Hiring a lawyer who gladly bills you exorbitant amounts of money for short telephone calls or emails while your case slowly moves through the court system is only going to make you more angry. Even if you are a strong but generally a mild mannered nice guy, did not cheat or abuse your spouse, and handled your financial and household business like a man should, a Judge will not think twice about taking your hard work from you while denying you equal access to your kids because of your mannerisms perceived poorly during a time of stress while your smug spouse sits quietly and smiles while acting emotionally indifferent knowing her financial reward is coming.
No matter how strong you are, your mental strength will be tested when you face divorce and child custody battles. Your kids, your success, and your emotional health are now on the line yet the system we are in wants you say nothing and just take it. Most lawyers expect you and advise to accept it as well. Your silence and lack of resistance makes it easier for those in power and control to push you through a system where men have long been left to suffer emotionally. Even the best known Alpha males are destroyed by this process.
While Justice is supposed to be blind, no more is that not true than in family court. As a man you are already at a disadvantage. Who you are and how you handle yourself will also be used to determine not only the outcome of custody of your kids, but too often an unfair allocation of alimony and division of assets. Even the strongest man who has provided for his family and wants nothing more than equal access to his kids and a fair division of assets faces an uphill battle to receive what a woman will get just by showing up and playing victim, often using a fake voice and feigning ignorance and shock all of which are designed to gain even more sympathy.
You are now reviewing lawyer websites where lawyers with years of experience tell you all they will do for you and you must choose one to represent you in a system that favors the woman, the mother, and the financial disparity that she will demand because she gave birth to your children and or supposedly supported you while you maximized your earning potential. Your hard work allowed her to stay at home with the kids or work when it was convenient for her without any type of sense of urgency because you had it covered. This gift that many women who have to work and parent often without help is now going to be used against you by the very woman who you thought admired you for being the man our fathers were for our mothers back in the day.
Who you choose to represent you and how that lawyer advises you to proceed will go a long way towards determining the financial damage you will ultimately suffer and how you will mentally and emotionally respond to the amount of child custody you fight for and receive. If you decide to get married and have a family, when you bring a lawyer in to your circle of knowledge and success is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life and smart men do this before they get married and long before the option of divorce is ever on the table.
As you decide how to move the process forward, understand you will soon be entering a system filled with people who too often have no problem watching you implode financially and mentally without any thought of what is fair or in the best interests of your kids. Hiring a lawyer who gladly bills you exorbitant amounts of money for short telephone calls or emails while your case slowly moves through the court system is only going to make you more angry. Even if you are a strong but generally a mild mannered nice guy, did not cheat or abuse your spouse, and handled your financial and household business like a man should, a Judge will not think twice about taking your hard work from you while denying you equal access to your kids because of your mannerisms perceived poorly during a time of stress while your smug spouse sits quietly and smiles while acting emotionally indifferent knowing her financial reward is coming.
No matter how strong you are, your mental strength will be tested when you face divorce and child custody battles. Your kids, your success, and your emotional health are now on the line yet the system we are in wants you say nothing and just take it. Most lawyers expect you and advise to accept it as well. Your silence and lack of resistance makes it easier for those in power and control to push you through a system where men have long been left to suffer emotionally. Even the best known Alpha males are destroyed by this process.
While Justice is supposed to be blind, no more is that not true than in family court. As a man you are already at a disadvantage. Who you are and how you handle yourself will also be used to determine not only the outcome of custody of your kids, but too often an unfair allocation of alimony and division of assets. Even the strongest man who has provided for his family and wants nothing more than equal access to his kids and a fair division of assets faces an uphill battle to receive what a woman will get just by showing up and playing victim, often using a fake voice and feigning ignorance and shock all of which are designed to gain even more sympathy.
You are now reviewing lawyer websites where lawyers with years of experience tell you all they will do for you and you must choose one to represent you in a system that favors the woman, the mother, and the financial disparity that she will demand because she gave birth to your children and or supposedly supported you while you maximized your earning potential. Your hard work allowed her to stay at home with the kids or work when it was convenient for her without any type of sense of urgency because you had it covered. This gift that many women who have to work and parent often without help is now going to be used against you by the very woman who you thought admired you for being the man our fathers were for our mothers back in the day.
Who you choose to represent you and how that lawyer advises you to proceed will go a long way towards determining the financial damage you will ultimately suffer and how you will mentally and emotionally respond to the amount of child custody you fight for and receive. If you decide to get married and have a family, when you bring a lawyer in to your circle of knowledge and success is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life and smart men do this before they get married and long before the option of divorce is ever on the table.