Computers, Cell Phones, and The Lack of Respect

When a man gets married and has a family, his life gets much busier and the pressure on him to be and do increases dramatically. No matter how much this pressure increases, there  is nothing better than the joy that comes with a quality wife and children. No matter how much the world changes from the values of yesteryear, many men want nothing better than to be a provider and to show their wife that she made the right choice to be her husband and the father of her kids. If she respects and shows the slightest bit of admiration for him, he will walk through a wall for her constantly singing her praises to others. Women know this and behave accordingly depending on how they value the marriage at a given moment.

The reality of the world and the increased technology including dating apps and the devils playground that is Facebook combined with the ever increasing hypergamus nature of women means that men, in addition to having to be an earner and provider, must be on the lookout more so than ever for behavior by their wife that indicates the marriage is over or he in fact married a nonvirtuous woman who will continue to use him as long as she is allowed to do so. Stupid men think that if a woman isn't asking for a divorce she is happy and not behaving badly. Men need to wake up and notice their wifes bad behavior so they can take action rather than live in a world of disrespect.

Lets look at this from the perspective of a man who has a stay at home wife and a wife that works. Either scenario is dangerous. 

Most men would love nothing better than to be successful enough so their wife can stay at home and raise kids while he works and provides for the family. If that is a mans reality he is probably working his ass off and hopes to come home to a clean house and a welcoming wife. Life can get monotonous but its still important that a married couple feel valued for their roles and that the marriage matters. Even the worst stay at home woman can keep a house clean and fake a welcome as the man walks through the door. Those that welcome the husband home and allow the house to stay dirty usually never cared or stopped caring long ago to the point where the other red flags indicating a bad marriage don't even factor in to the obvious reality that the marriage is over. For the woman who knows how to fake love or keeps the house reasonably clean, ask yourself what she is doing the rest of the day. She is probably on Facebook posting pictures of her perfect kids, talking in chat groups likely to other men, and doing other things to get the attention that she needs. The effort you give is not enough and she cannot accept the fact that you are working hard for the family and it is tough to see as a man that your wife has emotionally abandoned you. Its a slow process but over time, if the positivity you feel when you see your wife after work is gone and she has become indifferent to your efforts, you need to dig deeper and find the bad behavior and confirm that the marriage is over. Once you are able to do this, you can end a bad marriage rather than stay a sucker well into middle age when it likely does not matter any more.

Maybe you are the man where your kids are grown enough to where the wife has gone back to work, has worked while your kids were in day care, or you are married without kids and both of you work. Unlike the stay at home wife who is bored and focuses on her needs instead of that of her families, the working woman can cause you a different set of problems. She might be the career woman with a full time job where she is around a bunch of men who would love nothing better to get in to her pants. These co workers know how to flirt and find it to be a challenge to see if they can get your wife to cheat. It is easier than you think because most women are not faithful and are looking for something better especially if they have been married for awhile. If your spouse is lazy and not willing to work full time she might have a part time job at a gym or waiting tables or something that gets her out of the house to meet people and get away from the kids. The warmth, friendliness, and personality she shows to men at work or even complete strangers is what you saw from her when you first dated but long went out the window with the first kid and the found knowledge she gets atleast half of your success and some alimony or child support the minute she feels like leaving.

So what is my point gentleman? Wake up!! Look at what your wife does day to day and how she treats you versus others and how her behavior is indicative that she is having an affair or just being completely indifferent to you until she feels the best time it is to leave your hard working oblivious ass. When was the last time you had sex? If you get sex once a month you are in a sexless marriage. There are many men that would drop dead if they got sex once a month. Your wife may not be having sex with you but shes having sex elsewhere.

Even when you marry you should maintain some level of privacy. Your spouse shouldn't have to share all her passwords and tell you who she talks to every minute of the day. If there is trust and love there should be no issues and you don't want to be controlling or create distrust before the ink on the marriage certificate is even dry. That being said you need to be aware of the behavior that basically lets you know your wife does not value you or your marriage. 

Does your wife spend a lot of time on the computer? Is she always posting to Facebook? Is she 40 years old with an Instagram or Snapchat account? Is she in a bunch of fan fiction online groups where she gets affirmation of her inept sexuality or creativity? The more time she spends on a computer the more likely your marriage is over. If you ask her about it, she more defensive she gets the more likely it is a problem.

If your wife is a working woman or a stay at home woman, the cell phone might be her best friend and the easiest way to behave badly. Unless you are watching all her texting or listening to her conversations, it is impossible to tell who she is talking to and what is going on. Cell phones and texting are a normal part of day to day life and this makes talking to someone inappropriately a little harder to spot. Is it one of her friends? Is it a co worker? If the time spent does not seem normal, go with your instincts. If she is hiding her cell phone or shutting it down when you enter the room, there is a problem. She probably has two cell phones.

My point is that as a man while you are doing everything to be successful economically while also being a great dad, you need to be aware of how your wife behaves. If you are lucky enough to have a wonderful wife who appreciates and admires your value as a man, you are lucky and will know it. However most men do not have this especially as time passes. They are oblivious to what their wife is doing to disrespect the marriage or else he chooses to ignore it because he does not want to face the financial inequality in family court or be alone.

You get out of life what you tolerate. Marriage should be a joy not a burden. If you as a man feel disrespected or taken advantage of and allow it to go on, eventually fault lies with you. While you are working your tail off for a woman and a family, ask your self who you are doing this for? There is nothing more demeaning that knowing you are doing it for someone who no longer cares about you and is taking advantage of you often in your face hoping you will notice because she wants out of the marriage and wants you to be the one to pull the plug.

Get some balls and confidence and face the truth. If you have a good wife, cherish and do not cheat or disrespect her no matter how easy it could be to do, but if your wife is behaving in a way that even the biggest blue pill man would see what is going on, get the hell out. Get a Divorce. Don't delay. Walk out. It will be painful and you may question your decision, but as hard as it is to the man to face the pressure of providing for a family, the destruction to a man is worse if he does not stand up for himself and allows a woman to continue to use and mentally abuse him.