'As a man gets older, if he has any confidence, he looks forward to his time alone. His family and work responsibilities may not allow him he wants for himself. If he is blessed with a great wife and kids, he really does not mind. However, when things go bad in his marriage, or he feels taken advantage of to the point it seems he is nothing but an emotional or financial crush for someone who shows no love or respect, he has to make life changing decisions or accept what is being done to him which can speed up aging or the development of bad habits or addictions.
As men become more aware of the nature of women through experience and Red Pill education, there is quite a movement for men to just avoid the relationship and interaction and not play the game. This concept of MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) certainly has value, but we as men, especially those who have been through a marriage, divorce, and all the female behavior designed to isolate us from our money and our children, have to be careful how we implement this concept in our own lives and even more careful when it comes to giving advice to younger men.
There is nothing worse than a married man, or a man who has children and has been married, to tell a young man to be MGTOW or never get married or have kids. There are too many men with a wealth of knowledge who arent practicing what they preach. This advice they give can be meaningful and save men much heartache, but it is misguided and not coming from a place of hypocrisy. It is like your dad telling you not to smoke while continues to smoke two packs a day or someone who has never lost a child giving you advice on how to handle the grief of losing a child. This does not mean MGTOW is a bad concept or a way of life for loser men who have given up or cant get women. On the contrary, there are many men who live this lifestyle who can get women easier then men who are younger and better looking but they choose to be isolated. MGTOW however is never a good way of life for a young man who hears the stories of older men who lost their wives, families, and money to a system. As someone who experienced this, I would never tell young men to be MGTOW.
Any normal man should want a wife and kids no matter how bad things are in the court system and with female nature. If you think otherwise or encourage young men not to pursue some of life's joys because of what might happen down the road, you are giving bad advice especially if you are coming from a place of having been married and someone who had kids. I married a horrible woman and went through a bad divorce where I watched a system rape me of everything yet I would not tell a young man not to get married or have kids. The two biggest blessings of my life are the two daughters I got from my marriage. Despite the attempts at alienation I was lucky enough to overcome it and enjoy a relationship with them that I would bet is better than the one they have with their mother. Even if I had the knowledge I have now as an older man, if I had simply chosen the MGTOW lifestyle and never married or had kids, i would be in a position of many men I know my age who for all the money they have, are very unfulfilled men. For my lack of awareness until my divorce rape, I always knew I wanted kids from a young age and not having them would have caused more anger than all the anger I have from how I was treated by my wife and the court system. The advice that you dont need to get married to have kids is also a bit misguided. It creates a new set of problems that is for another conversation and not likely to lead to proper development of kids even when compared to kids of divorce.
MGTOW however is an important and valuable concept for divorced men with kids or even older men who are not in a relationship and struggle to find female attention. MGTOW men are not men who cannot get women and are usually the smartest men on the ways of women. They have chosen to not deal with female behavior and this can be an enlightening way of life that allows for clear thinking and financial happiness. The older I get, the less time I want to spend with women and I value my alone time. A man who gets divorced after a long marriage or one that involves kids often makes a big mistake and jumps in to another marriage or relationship. With age comes the desire to overcompensate so more money can be spent or more aggressive approaches are used to get the females attention and that makes a man even more susceptible to being taken advantage of by women who simply want a mans money. The older a man gets, the less value he has to a woman. Men can use their money to buy the attention of youth and that is fine if you know why you are doing it and that the woman could care less about you, but older women, even those with money and some of their looks from youth, have very little appeal to men other than as a older woman fetish that does not last. Women do better at being alone than men however as we age. Therefore the MGTOW concept is a way of understanding and practicing how to live a life as a man without the company of women because it makes him happier day to day. It is not a way of life that loser men celebrate because they cannot do well in the sexual marketplace. Embrace it as you need to as an older man but dont let it rule your life because you are trying to show women that you are finally on to their ways.
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for young men as early as age 16-18 to understand the nature of women so they can learn to control the narrative of their interactions with them. You are only young once and if you can develop the confidence needed to deal with women you are going to be very successful in all aspects of life. As a young man I was as good looking and athletic as you can ask for and walked with an air of confidence that attracted many women to me. I had so many advantages that other guys my age did not have yet I had a long term girlfriend who treated me like crap for years and I was too insecure to do anything about it. I didnt have the confidence to walk away. I was as blue pilled as you get. While men dont come in to who the are until about age 26, with some guidance as a younger man I could have made better decisions and found a female who would have been better for me. Instead my insecurities pushed back the time I felt I could get a great wife and have a family. Even with everything going right outside of dating, I was unable to find a wife and the next thing you know you are on the other side of 30 trying to marry a decent woman and have a family. The end result was a bad choice that I paid for in so many ways. You do not want to get married at age 35. If not for the ability to get pregnant quickly I may not have even gotten kids. If I had been educated as a young man(my father was clueless and he was from a generation where people married young and stayed married so you didnt need to know about women as you were staying married no matter what absent very weird events), then I would have been able to use my blessings to become more confident and maybe find a wife and have kids at a young age.
Even if you are able to learn what you need to as a young man, there is still a 80% chance your marriage will end in divorce or you will be stuck in misery because you wont leave your wife. You need to be able to handle things once you do get divorced and MGTOW is a great perspective and way of life. A man who lives this life post divorce is not a loser or an angry man. He is an aware man. He can enjoy his life on his own terms and have occasional interaction with women without having to be in a relationship. It is really the ideal lifestyle post divorce or once you realize you are not going to have kids. We do need to be careful how we encourage this lifestyle though. It is not for young men and never should be advocated by men who are married with kids when talking to younger men. We as a country need to encourage families and getting started when we are young. Men need to learn about the nature of women so we can make better decisions at a time in life so if divorce happens, it is happening when we are younger which means less financial loss, or at a time when kids are grown and their is no custody battle. Divorce is never good and while it is tough for a man to lose his money to a woman, the fight over kids and the crazy child support that comes with divorcing with young kids destroys so much more.
Think about who and where you get your advice. Understand where you are in life and that MGTOW has its place in our overall happiness as men.
Why would anyone get married if they wanted to be a single parent? A man certainly does not. If he gets divorced with kids, his life is going to be full of added grief and frustration. Unlike women, men typically don't have awareness of the ramifications of being a single parent until it is too late. By the time the marriage is over and the man learns what he is facing, there is nothing he can do. Women on the other hand, likely married the man she did because she knew she wanted to be a single mom at some point when it would best benefit her. Women don't really want to be married, but for most women they simply cant or wont just get a man to donate some sperm without the marriage because of how it appears. They need to be able to present as a victim with proper values and morals when needed so they get married and when it ends on their terms, they now have someone to blame for their failures while gaining the control over the children and a mans finances while also receiving adulation from an ever accepting society that praises single moms for being survivors and heroes. This image isn't so easy if they just start having kids with the type of men who like sex but don't want to have a family. Even most whorish women don't want to appear as such and having multiple kids without a marriage tied to it, even if they later divorce, really makes them look bad.
If women don't want to be married and will not carry their weight in a marriage once it takes place, what is a man to do? There is nothing the man can do other than understand what he is signing up for and whether the desire for a family outweighs how the mother of his kids will behave when she is ready. Thinking a woman is going to behave honorably just because she chooses to marry you is a mindset men must eliminate from their thoughts. Ask a married woman why she married the man she is with and the top answer will likely be "he is a good provider". That is basically the equivalent of a man saying he married a woman because she has giant boobs or the perfect ass. While the female response generates positive acceptance from society, a man who says why he married the woman, while likely true, makes him look like a pig. These opposite mindsets and how they are perceived by society is a big reason why the court system favors women. Women know that even if they dont get one of those "good providers. they have the State to take the kids from the man and to become her provider by controlling the man. Once you understand the female mindset you can make decisions that best work for your desire for children or even a period of time to play family. When it ends, and it likely will, you are in the best position to handle what will be a traumatic experience no matter how well you prepare your future.
If you do not want children, do not ever get married. Sadly most men do want kids however no matter who aware they are of female behavior. Knowing that a man likely needs a woman to help him get kids, how he navigates this process will determine his future mental and financial health. While younger women love the idea of marriage and want to get engaged before all their friends so they can show off, they don't really want to be married or be a contributor to a marriage. Women who marry young are very likely to want out at some point whether it be 5 years or 10 years down the road. The reasons vary but it is still likely to happen even if you may get some genuine love and affection for awhile that rarely comes from women over 30.They go from loving the story of being married they can present to their friends to waking up one day and realizing they gave up their prime years and now want to play with some new friends they met at the gym while you are out being a "good provider" . Women who wait to get married until they are after 30 not only are unlikely to be able to bond with a man because they have had so much sex with so many men, their window for children is getting smaller by the day which puts your decision to marry is an even riskier proposition. They would like nothing better than to find a successful man to give her a baby so she can divorce him on demand and take all his prime earning years of his mid to late 30s all the way to 50 and beyond. When the divorce happens, they move on so quick yet the alimony and child support checks are coming in at peek value because you stupidly waited to get married until you were established in what you think is a career. A woman who marries younger may divorce you but you may be that one special guy in her life for various reasons. This often makes divorce and co parenting a little easier. Women who are over 30 getting married who later divorce would just as soon she you living in the streets even if you are the father of her kids because she is incapable of bonding and you are just another man who disappointed her while reminding her or her mistake she didn't marry young or heaven forbid you arent her first marriage and she needs to punish you because the first one, who she might have loved briefly, got away.
If women want to be single moms, and they do, if you want kids what do you do? If you understand what she is, what her desires are, and that who you are plays no factor in her behavior, you are halfway there. You need to get married young and start having your kids before you make money. There is a small chance you might get lucky and meet that sweet rare woman who values family and what a husband means allowing for a long term or even life time marriage. You might have a real chance to build what families should be in our country if it is going to survive. While most relationships are nothing but lies, there is nothing better than one built on respect and teamwork and maybe even some long lasting love. It can happen but only when you are young. If you wait until you or a woman is after 30, forget it. The agenda she carries will cause the marriage to be destroyed and the financial payoff to be at its max for the woman. If a woman who marries in her twenties may take a few years to realize she wants to be a single mom, a woman who marries in her thirties is planning to be a single mom when she meets you. You are just the guy who is around at the time she needs to have her babies or plot the biggest financial payoff. Men dont think like this at all.
Getting married young will allow you to be in a position where even if the marriage goes bad and you are going to get divorce raped, your kids are older and your financial responsibility less because you are not likely at your maximum earning age or time. What is most important is if you divorce after marrying young, you can be done with all the child support and alimony payments and maybe still be in your early 40s where you are really starting to earn. You also are not so old that you cannot do well with ladies who appreciate your success and stability. This does not mean remarry. If you have had your kids and don't see a new woman as the mother of more of your kids, you can enjoy her on your terms. You will control the narrative when it comes to dating while also holding on to your money. Delaying marriage until you are in your thirties for whatever reason is going to cause you to make some big mistakes that will cost you more later in life. When you are thirty plus and still want kids, its not going to be as easy to meet a woman in her early to mid twenties to have a family. Women who want kids young and are willing to marry rarely marry a guy who is much older than they are. Your fantasy of building your career and appearing rich in your thirties while you date young women in their twenties is not the recipe for even a temporary marriage that could possibly last. A woman who is that young who marries up is very aware and wont even hide that she wants your money. Any woman you choose after 30 is going to get your prime earning years and if you are at or near the same age, while it might look good on the surface, these women are even more experienced and will be more stealth in their desire to be a single mom. A woman who waits until shes over 30 to get married and have kids either never wanted to be married or is settling for you because you just happen to be that guy who is around at the time she needs to have her kids before it is too late. There is nothing that is a bigger kick in the teeth for a guy pushing 50 as when this suddenly becomes reality and you are left paying out max money to a woman approaching the wall but still has no problem getting men to pay attention to her because she was and still may be attractive. No matter how rich you are, you don't want to be in your fifties trying to date. You might as well skip it and just pay hookers. While it may not be much easier for women at the same age, they don't care as they still don't have to put out any effort. The men older women attract may be less quality, it is on their terms which allows for attention and control which is fuel for these needs that last until they die. They have your money and their kids and can put on an act of happiness that no man can match because they are single, can play victim as needed, and have you as as an extra source of income. This was their goal either from the minute they married you or realized that no matter who or what you are, you cannot meet their demand for attention which causes them to want to be the single mom.
There are always going to be exceptions to every rule. You might be the lucky guy who meets a nice girl at a young age and you build a life with a great family. That is reality for very few men however in today's throw away and Instagram look at me society. You still want kids though. As a man who married a horrible woman who used a court system to take my wealth while trying to alienate me from my kids with no ramifications, I am blessed beyond belief with two daughters who I am to this day close with and who see what kind of man I am every day. These relationships are priceless and seeing how naive I was for so long, I was genuinely lucky to be in the wrong place at the wrong time when the mother of my kids did what she needed to do to get her kids and her money so she could be a single mom enjoying the freedoms that come with it because of how she timed her marriage and has the State to enforce her demand money she does not need because I am considered a "good provider". No matter the negativity that happened to me, I am very much to blame for it because I allowed it to happen due to delaying marriage and not being educated on the nature of women. You do not want to be a 35 year old man, no matter how successful, trying to find a wife of quality. Getting married is easy and impregnating a woman is easy, but if you pick a bad one because your time is running out to have kids, she will punish you. Her agenda makes a mid thirties man an easy mark and you let a lot of the obvious be ignored because of how she looks or that you have put your need for kids first over any qualities you might hope for in a wife. My lack of awareness is very much my fault and it is all I can do now to keep young men from being in my position when there are better ways to live life.
What you men need to understand is the female mindset and how to combat it while also allowing yourself to have kids. If you want kids do not just stick your head in the sand and not play the game. You will be 35-40 with no kids and lots of regret no matter how much money you have or how many gold diggers you sleep with thinking they liked you and not what you bought them. Regret is not something you want on your deathbed. You have to interact with women with the right mindset and the only way to combat these women are for older men to educate younger men on why it may make sense to give up the freedom of your twenties to save heartache in your forties and fifties that drive many men to drinking, drug use, video game or porn addiction, or too often suicide. Many young men don't have a father who can or will do it for a variety of reasons. My father was the last of a generation where most couples stayed married for life and had no clue about female behavior because like many men, they married women of quality who valued family. The world is no longer like that sadly but the information is out there so men don't have any excuses and need to be prepared