I don't watch as much sports as I used to when I was younger. Getting older makes it a bit harder to follow players and wear jerseys of men/kids half my age. With rare exception, from the outside seeing other men and how they dress in their sports gear, it looks pretty stupid. Most of my soccer jerseys and other either valuable or unique sports memorabilia collected over a life of playing and watching sports(that my ex wife didn't steal from me under my nose before I could move out of my house) is boxed up and waiting for the day they can be sold. I have no interest in them and I have some pretty cool jerseys. I am even considering quitting a fantasy baseball league I have been in with the same guys for 30 years. No I am not depressed but as you age some things don't matter as much as they used to and life experience can make your priorities change. That being said, I still watch the NBA and have been a Lakers fan since I was a little kid when Kareem came over from Milwaukee and we got Magic, Kobe, Shaq etc. Nostalgia at its best. While I am not as passionate as I was as years past, I still try to keep up with them.
What does all this rambling have to do with divorce, child custody, and female nature etc, you ask?
This summer they signed DaMarcus Cousins whose story with injuries and the amount of money it has cost him is well documented. As soon as he signs, he tears up his knee and may never wear the Lakers uniform. Making things worse for him, if you haven't heard, Cousins just got married over the weekend. He has kids by another woman so is probably paying her a ton of child support which goes not for the kid but for the baby mama. For some reason Cousins thinks its a good idea to get remarried and guess what, he wants his kid to attend the wedding. Can you believe the gall of such a request? Shockingly baby mama refuses to allow the kid to attend and it pisses Cousins off as it would any man. Baby mama turns on a hidden tape/video recorder and after refusing to allow his kid to attend his wedding, she gets Cousins on tape making all sorts of threats to her. She basically alienates his kid from him, refuses even the slightest act of kindness to a man who no matter their differences, is through the system of female wealth building called child support giving money every month to her for doing nothing. This set up is not new and is probably ongoing with Cousins and baby mama so provoking him is not a challenge. The fact he is a 7ft alpha male athlete type makes it even easierto provoke. He is now on tape saying things he shouldn't and its going to cost him quite a bit more had it was he said she said about what he said.
As I referenced in a prior post, I had this happen to me. The only difference is that I found the recorder by accident before I got to the point I was outwardly making the threats that were running through my mind because of how a woman I loved and took care of was using the system to destroy me financially and blatantly alienate my kids from me with support of the family court system. After losing everything I had worked for and being under emotional and financial pressure, I very easily could have made threats to my soon to be ex. While certainly not the right thing do, under the pressures of the loss of money and family and a woman who knows how to say the right things to make the situation worse, to ask even a top notch man to not respond at least once inappropriately is asking a lot. Women know this as well. That is why they will carry recorders with them everywhere once the relationship starts to go bad or they think that divorce becomes a possibility. The wrong thing said on tape can cost you professionally and personally. The examples I could list of this behavior by women is endless. You don't ever see men taping women with such planning. By the time a man starts taping his woman, its too late. She knows all the tricks and your efforts to catch her cheating or behaving improper is not going to happen. With men, even after its obvious the relationship is over or has been from some time, we still lash out because we are the ones being isolated from our children and destroyed financially well after the divorce. The double standard is off the charts.
Therefore, here is your free tip of the day.....
Once your relationship even appears to be slightly going bad, SHUT THE HELL UP!!! DONT SAY ANYTHING OUT OF ANGER OR THAT WILL HURT YOUR FINANCIAL OR CUSTODIAL INTERESTS. ASSUME THERE ARE RECORDERS IN EVERY ROOM AND ON YOUR WIFES PERSON. YOUR ASS IS BEING TAPED AND THESE WOMEN ARE BETTER AT IT THAN DONNIE BRASCO AT A FAMILY SIT DOWN.
Do you think I am embellishing or just saying things to scare you? Think again. Cousins is just a high profile example. I was married to the perfect looking soccer mom. If you met her you would think she is the nicest and prettiest woman you have ever met. It means nothing. Its an act. Its fake. Whether it was her own thinking the marriage was over(notice its thinking with women and they wont ever tell you until all their contingency plans for divorce are in place) or me stupidly dropping hints that I thought it was over, her vengeful side appeared. She was going to do anything to get all the money and alienate me from my kids despite the life I provided for her and no matter how different we might be, never doing anything to threaten or insult her. It didn't matter. She was going to covertly tape my ass. A good husband. The father of her children. She was doing this and not even caring if her attempts at provocation could cause me to say or do anything that could cost me my professional licenses or go to jail. Your wife will feel nothing if you end up in prison or cant earn money. What this does to your kids mean nothing yet she will say to a judge she has the best interests of the kids more than you do so she could should have primary custody. Do you get how Twilight Zone this whole system is for men?
Your wife is probably doing this to you right now. You aren't exempt from such behavior. Your sweet and quiet wife knows exactly what to do and there are lawyers out there who encourage such behavior to help a woman get the kids even from a good dad.
Don't say I didn't warn you. If you need help in this area or want to know how to combat it like I did to help preserve your chance at 50/50 custody, which I got by finding the perfect soccer moms dirty secrets, and maybe save some of your money or job, MenUnited.TV is here.
Do you Have the Courage to Leave Her?
I remember the first time the word divorce popped into my head. I had not been happy in my marriage for some time. In fact, I married someone who the day after we got married took her wedding ring off and I never saw it on her finger again for the length of the marriage(8 years). Watching a gorgeous woman treat me poorly while she treated everyone else well was just something that I could not accept I was seeing. It was a total mindfuck to be married to such a gorgeous woman who treated me with disdain and disrespect while knowing for some reason she was sacrificing her prime to live in a loveless marriage and have kids with someone she had no feelings for. Maybe it was just me being insecure despite my outward confidence. Maybe it was something I was doing wrong. It didn't matter. She was stunning and she was with me. She was as physically perfect to me she was detestable a human being.
Throughout our marriage we had money and all the personal items anyone could want. Add two beautiful healthy daughters to the mix where I felt so proud that my wife could stay home and be a traditional wife while I encouraged her and supported her to work or go to class and life was what I thought it was supposed to be. We never fought(because we never talked) and on the outside we looked like this beautiful family with the world at our feet. Yet there I was using the divorce word in my thoughts. For all the outside positivity, there were clearly a lot of problems. I knew what they were but I didn't rock the boat. A beautiful woman was giving me children and I was in for all the kids I could get. I would do whatever it took to take care of them. In my mid to late 30s I was realizing the dreams I could not find or achieve in my 20s, when I believed, and still do to this day, was the time for me to make those dreams reality. My parents were married for life and with less money and experiencing the burden of tragedy that no one deserves, they made it work. I had a great childhood. For me to think of divorce was just blasphemy.
Yet there I was, contemplating divorce. The red bill had been hitting me upside the head since the day the wedding ring came off my wife's finger and she began living the single life filled with the disrespect that dared me to do something. My wife knew who I was, my character, and what mattered to me. She knew how badly I wanted kids and she knew how beautiful I thought she was. Where was I going to find better at this stage in life? Knowing who I was and how I carried myself gave her the outline of how to behave so she could get what she wanted. What I didn't realize and maybe am still in denial about is that she wanted certain things at that time in her life and I was the man who could provide them yet she didn't want me. I was just the right guy at the right time. No matter what I achieved or how I behaved, I was never going to be the man that mattered to her. Maybe I was a rebound from a man she loved. Maybe my ability to earn and provide her a nice life was very appealing even if she didn't smile when she saw me. Maybe she wanted kids and I was a good looking athletic man who would produce big strong kids. I could make a list. The bottom line is she was preparing for divorce before we ever said I do. I had no idea what was to come and my wife's desire to financially and emotionally destroy someone she did not even want to be with was beyond the anything you could imagine.
Why do I mention this stuff that happened years ago no matter how bad the divorce ultimately turned out? I say this to help you men who are reading this and other sites who are contemplating divorce. If you are making your list of all the things that justify a divorce or push you to getting legal advice, know that she is already thinking about it. It is likely she has already seen a lawyer. If you are not her first husband as in my case, your wife knows the divorce laws as well as your lawyer and much more than you. Your success in your field means nothing in terms of what you know about the ramifications of divorce. She probably does not want to be married to you but is not going to leave until she can maximize her financial benefit. If you have kids, she does not want you to have equal custody and is planning her exit in the way that will maximize her custody and reduce the time you have with your kids. There are no limits as to what a woman will do once she decides she does not want you for the long term. Without even discussing it, while she can fake certain things day to day to fool the average man, she will show her colors to the point where even a man who believes in marriage can see that things are just not right.
Add all of this negativity to the information you are likely to gather as to the cost of divorce and figuring out how to pick the right lawyer. You now realize the financial loss is coming. As an aside, while you are searching for a lawyer...IF A LAWYER TELLS YOU TO SETTLE FOR LESS THAN EQUAL 50/50 CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILDREN OR THAT THE JUDGE WONT GIVE YOU EQUAL CUSTODY, DO NOT HIRE THAT LAWYER!. You must get in fight mode and you need a lawyer who encourages you while you are feeling low because you lost your wife.
Part of the fight mode is being the one to file for divorce before she does. Remember 70-80 percent of divorces are filed by women. This isn't the case because the world is filled with bad marriages where men abuse, lie, cheat, and force the loyal woman to leave. Women file because they do it when it will work best for them and they know men simply dont want to face the divorce because they lose money and custody the minute its filed which is what the opposite of what the woman gets when its filed. Women want to time it when you are at your peak financially or atleast not at rock bottom. They will fake what they have to and stay longer with you if it means a higher payout like staying married for 10 years so if you die she can get your Social Security(Imagine getting married a little later in life, working your butt off for 15 years and then you get divorced. Maybe you are pushing 60 and the kids are finally out of the house and your wife is living off all the inequitable distribution of your assets and like many men, the stress of it all finally kills you and you die in your early 60s. Soon after your ex wife goes and gets your monthly social security basically living off what put you in the grave). You aren't filing for divorce first because you want to brag to your friends that you left the sorry bitch and your some big man with no emotions. The men that don't file for divorce first are blindsided when the wife does it or have the obvious on ignore like I did. They thought their wife would never leave. The horrible behavior of your wife was right in front of you yet you did nothing and are now acting in shock that she is leaving you. Even the 20% of men that do file for divorce more often than not they didn't want to do it because of kids or the financial loss or they really wanted a family . I was one of the 20% who filed and I didn't want to do it. I wanted the family and put the bad behavior of my wife on ignore for years because I so badly wanted this great family where I could prove every day that I was going to be the foundation. I would have disrespected myself even more than I had by staying and allowing someone to use and abuse me.
The statistics support the mindset of the modern man. It is one of weakness and fear. I would have saved thousand of dollars and made better choices had I had the information or a mentor who could help my mindset as a young man. Without it, I was ripe for what happened to me. I should have had sucker printed on my forehead when I walked around past age 30 trying to find a wife to build my ideal family. As you sit behind your computer and read all these divorce and coaching websites, ask yourself if you can accept what your reality is. It cannot be fixed. Your marriage is over. The question is now can you control the outcome. Can you walk out on your terms before she does.
I can show you what to do and how to win.
Understand the Message
For you white knight beta men and feminist women, especially those who have been through a divorce, who want to contact MenUnited and say we are just bitter and angry men who got divorce raped or left by a woman and we spew nothing but hate, you are clearly missing the message of what we do and how we see women.
Our goals are to prepare men for marriage and divorce with the hope they never have to divorce. No one wants to get divorced but your normal male is not going to simply go monk mode by choice even after a bad divorce. Telling men not to marry or have kids because ours failed yet we have kids who we enjoy is pretty stupid. Telling men not to have kids because women control family courts is also stupid. There is nothing worse than some middle aged dude whose wife left him who now spews a MGTOW lifestyle like hes now the king of the world. It is pathetic and an embarrassment to what it means to be a man. Its almost as bad listening to young men who have been filled with so much negativity of the bitter men saying they are MGTOW and not getting married. But what about having kids these young men ask? Simply saying use a surrogate or just have some bastard kids goes not only against a moral system that many of us follow, but the destruction of the family unit via procreation is never a good thing for a society who wants to be above everyone else.
The world has changed however that cannot be ignored and you cannot go into a marriage or start having kids without understanding the risk and the power the wife has especially if you make a good living or are a high dollar earner. There is more at risk for men both emotionally and financially because women simply are not loyal. Their hypergamy is on full display even after marriage because they are educated as to the family court system. In a world where the Ward and June Cleaver household is pretty much dead because its the rare man who can provide for a household without his wife working. Women also don't value what it means to be a stay at home mom and take care of a family.
I used to think Generation X was the last generation where men and women still saw the importance of the family over all else. The way people treat each other and how kids are supposed to be raised still had a foundation in the core of this age group as it was their parents who stayed married forever and showed very little disrespect to each other when compared to the modern 21st century woman who is in a marriage or relationship. I am thinking now that it may have been the parents of the Generation Xers who last implemented these values when it may not have been the easy way to live. My parents stayed married their whole lives and faced many tragedies and difficulties yet as far as I know divorce was never discussed. My mom stayed at home and raised the kids and only took on a career once the kids were in high school. It wasn't because we were rich. In fact my father was poorer than I ever imagined and he could have used my moms income. The fact is their value system was one like many in those days. Dad worked. Mom stayed at home. It wasn't the perfect family but I had a top notch child hood with very few material things. Many parents, including parents of my friends had situations where maybe the dad was mentally abusive or unfaithful and the wife ignored it. The women were not outspoken and most importantly didn't blatantly disrespect the husband like women do now. This did not mean they didn't speak up or try to better themselves. Divorce was also rare because financially it would kill both parents and the kids even more so than it does today. The kids got their values but the economic and social changes pushed this lifestyle away and men who were kids during this time did not learn and adjust. Many of them get married and have kids like their father but married women who are nothing like their mother in their behavior and thinking. My father did not have to experience the modern day nature of a wife that would likely have caused him to drink himself silly or commit suicide if he had to face what the men of today must face in terms of women and behavior. We as men must overcome that and learn to control our relationship mindset
This is where MenUnited comes in. We use our experience to prepare men for marriage and divorce. We did not have fathers who knew how to educate us as to the ways of women and the cost of divorce. They either never experienced it or if they did, they didnt talk to their sons. Their sons married women who have no problem showing what they are unlike our mothers who put the family first. We are not anti woman or anti family and certainly dont want to be the fat guy in a lawn chair sitting in his backyard or man cave playing video games talking about how life screwed them over.No matter our experience, we still like to enjoy the company of women yet we enjoy them on our terms and are mature enough to walk away from even the most beautiful of women who still want to date us despite our past relationship experiences that left us battered emotionally by someone we loved and financially destroyed by a family court system who does not value fathers.
Young men need to be taught how to be married and when to do it. Why does it make sense to get married young versus waiting until you are in your mid 30s? Why is having kids still one of the most important things a man can do? These are lessons taught by MenUnited. We don't say all women are bad and don't ever get married or have kids. If you do get married and have kids and there is still a good chance you will get divorced. You need to plan for that divorce once you get engaged to a woman. My father was as good a man as I have ever met yet he was clueless how to explain the world to me and including the ways of women. If he had, the money it would have saved me and the knowledge he could have provided would have helped me make a better choice at a better time when it came to picking a wife and getting married.
Once a man takes the red pill he cant undo it. He may find the pill through experience or the knowledge that is out there like it wasnt before the days of the internet and social media. As men we must now prepare and teach other about life. Unless you do not want kids, marriage and children is vital to a successful and moral society. Stories of divorce, financial rape, and parental alienation should never keep you from marrying and building a family. What the social media age should teach you is when to marry and how to manage your marriage. It should teach you the nature of women so you can pick one where you atleast have a chance to have a solid long term relationship while also knowing that even if you think you got a good one you are likely to be divorced or that you will be living in a marriage of defeat until you die because you dont have the confidence to walk away, which is your only power in a relationship.
If you want to read about men complaining why their divorce went bad and that they now embrace the MGTOW life, MenUnited is not your source. If you want to try and understand the nature of women, why they do what they do, and how to anticipate and react to it in the marriage and dating environment, we are your source. If you are married and see divorce as a possibility and didn't prepare for it early on and want to know what to do to minimize the payout and see your kids as much as possible we are your source.
A woman's worst enemy is an educated and confident man. Looks and money don't always bring knowledge and confidence even it if brings plenty of women. Without knowledge and confidence even the best looking alpha behaving dominant personality is going to be run over by what is likely a pretty and hypergamous woman. Our job is to educate and help you depending on where you are in your life. Only brutal honesty, which includes specific stories about a specific woman and general descriptions that fit most(there are always exceptions to every general statement) but not all women, in addition to teaching men to think, can help men manage their relationships and divorce.
The more men I run across who need help from a legal or emotional standpoint dealing with the loss of their marriage, the more it's about trying to figure out why they are getting divorced and not how to save their assets and maximize time with their kids. I am amazed by the men who are looking for affirmation that they were a good husband and provider while trying to understand why their wife wanted a divorce or why they were treated so badly that they were forced to leave their wife even if they didn't want to despite the years of mental abuse, shaming, and disrespect. These same men will hire a lawyer who will encourage them to give up marital assets and sign a custody agreement that gives him every other weekend with his kids because they are told this is the best they can do in court. The lawyer gets his fee, does minimal work, and the man soon thereafter realizes his mistake and starts to see the financial and emotional issues that come with being bullied by the process like he was while he was married. Despite all this negativity and sudden change in day to day life, he still wants to know why his wife didn't want to be married to him any longer.
As one of the 20% of men who left his wife and filed for divorce after years of mental abuse and neglect versus the typical man whose wife filed for divorce, I asked the same questions and sadly still do more than I want to admit. I didn't want to be divorced. I loved my wife and kids. The divorce process was horrible from losing most of my assets to a woman who contributed nothing to having to fight to win 50/50 custody of my two young daughters. I had barely moved out of my home when her first lawyer sent me a letter offering 2 days a month visitation with a long list of financial demands by a woman who refused to go back to work despite a college degree and who would use the system to spend the next four years not working full time. I was forced to endure a trial for child custody because I wanted 50/50 custody where my character and parental desire and skills were questioned by lawyers who without reason or evidence wanted to see a good father not have equal custody of daughters who need a strong dad in their lives regularly. It takes a special kind of evil to advocate for such a position but it was done with ease and a big smile. This is a process I wouldn't wish on any man yet despite being the one who left and seeing how badly I was treated pre and post divorce, I still too often asked myself what did I do wrong to cause this marriage to end? Why didn't my wife want to be married to me and why was I disrespected to the point I had no choice but to walk out on my family and endure the hell of the family court system? For all the marriages that do end(50% of first marriages and 70% of second marriages), think of all the marriages that don't end because the man does not want to deal with what most men who get divorced have to face. Now that many years have passed and I can reflect with less anger, I use my experience to help men understand why there was simply nothing they could have done so we can focus on doing as well as possible in a financial and custodial sense while letting the need for an explanation why go by the wayside as much as possible. Let me explain.
Unless you are very lucky, you likely married a woman who was settling for you at a given time in her life when she wanted financial stability, children, or just wanted a wedding to show all her friends that she was married. If you weren't her first husband she likely needed you to take out the revenge she had for the first husband who didn't turn out to be the man she wanted or give her children. She does not want to be a wife and has no interest in an equal partnership over the long term. Her needs are her needs and they do not involve you. Once you have kids you will learn real quick that you are basically an afterthought and once she is done having kids with you, your value is even less. Her priorities are now her kids and you are simply a financial tool to be used and ignored. The older she is when she gets married, there is even less of a chance that she has any true interest in seeing marriage the way a man does and handling the responsibility and honesty that comes with being a wife. Even though she got married, she is still looking for attention. You might satisfy that need for awhile but if you are the nice guy you will get walked on and if you turn out to be a jerk, she will be looking elsewhere quicker and more openly.
Back in the day this behavior was a bit more subtle many women knew how to fool the "nice guy" or the man who was doing everything right to make the relationship work. In today's modern social media society, things have changed and attention is more easily attainable and there is a record of who is actually giving a woman attention in the form of likes and followers. Cell phones make the exchange of attention via texting, pictures, and videos as common place and acceptable as getting a girls phone number back in the day so you could call a house phone and maybe get to talk to her. Women don't want other women getting more attention than they get married or not. Ask Steph Curry's wife about that. She does not even hide her desire for attention. If your wife is pretty your marriage is even more likely to fail because the attention she receives will be off that chart and women are not loyal long term in the 21st century. As a man you have to show you are the prize and rather than try to negotiate her desire or tolerate disrespect that goes way beyond the day to day issues that exist in a marriage, you must be able to walk away from women who do not respect you and what you bring to the table. If she does not admire you and what you are, you cant do anything to change that. A woman like that is never yours. It is just your turn. Her desire will soon be focused elsewhere and its simply a matter of timing when things go bad. As the man you need to decide when to move on or that you are the guy who will accept the wife being in control and stay until the kids leave the house or until she leaves you knowing you have no respect from the woman whose life you likely provide for day to day. There is no right answer but a self aware man is going to be an emotional basket case the day he realizes what his wife truly is and has to decide how to live his life going forward. When kids are involved you must make decisions that benefit their well being and there are no easy answers. Women know they control the narrative and if you are the nice guy who brings home a good paycheck, which is likely why she married you and allowed you to father her kids, you are in a no win situation while you wake up each day knowing she can pull the plug and get all the cash and prizes provided by the family court system.
In the early stages of relationship failure men want to talk about all they do right. I make good money. I give her a car and a home and I help out with the kids. I clean the house and take care of the yard. I basically do everything I can so she has nothing to complain about. I also don't challenge her and defer to her wishes and desires. What men fail to realize is that no matter what they do, she is not going to be satisfied. She wants more and the foundation of your sacrifice combined with her own inner arrogance will make her even more emboldened to think she can find it whenever she wants it. If you mix in the likely NPD she has because she is pretty, you are pretty much screwed when it comes to maintaining an honest respectful relationship with her over the long haul. Has she been married before? Did you marry someone with kids from a prior marriage? If this is the case, you are likely just the next in line of her trying to find her unicorn. She picked you because of her need for money because her first husband was everything bad that you are good or this was the time to have kids. It is possible she didn't get enough money from the first husband or wanted more kids because she couldn't fool the first husband long enough to get all the kids she wanted. Once you meet her currently prioritized needs she will time the exit of the marriage by simply leaving or behaving so badly that she lives like a single woman while you slowly die from despair and she loses more and more respect for you because you allow the behavior rather than leave. This does not mean you're weak because it takes a special kind of man to leave even a bad wife knowing the financial loss and likelihood of not getting equal custody of your kids the minute you decide to walk out.
Whether a man should ever get married and when is the best time to do it can be debated. Choosing the right wife is also something that must be discussed by men. How to be the dominant man in a relationship is also important to help a woman understand her role and your value to her so she might not show her nature so soon is also vital. These issues and others as they relate to marriage and behavior are for other topics to discuss. What men need to understand once their relationship ends is not why it ended and what you could have done different. It is too late and the reality is very painful. What men need to learn is what steps to take and when to take them to protect their financial assets and maximize the custody time of kids. They also need to find the right support system to deal with their emotions and to learn what is the best way to deal with an ex using hopefully as little contact as possible post marriage, kids or not. Without the proper support from the right lawyer, a bad situation is going to get worse. Trying to understand why your wife behaved the way she did or why she never really cared enough about you to be an equal partner in your marriage is pointless. You aren't unique and getting input and life or legal advice from the right men is invaluable. Men need to be more communicative and helpful to their friends who are going through this and get them to the right lawyer. My parents were married 40 years until my dad died. He was the nice guy and in today's world he would have been eaten alive by a horrible woman. While I wish I had him or someone to educate me as a young man about female nature so I could develop my sense of awareness and make better choices at better times, the world isn't like that any more and today's woman isn't like your mother. Their values and priorities have changed and they aren't afraid to put their behavior on display because they can. They are ruthless with agendas that so many men ignore because there is nothing better than a pretty woman or the joy of having children, which so many men never get to experience in life. Men cannot change what women have become but we can educate each other early to make better choices in life and how to focus on a task at hand rather than try to figure out why something went bad. There is nothing better than a top notch woman and a wonderful wife as they do exist even if they are as rare as a Trump supporter on a college campus, but when the reality hits that you didn't get one, you need to take the right steps going forward rather than asking why your ex is everything you thought she wasn't while she and her win at all costs lawyers, even to the detriment of your kids, destroy you in family court.
There is no better place to get the education and focus on what matters when it comes to relationships, divorce, and child custody than with the team at menunited.tv. I am proud to be a part of it.
Are your Children really yours?
For all the difficulties you face once you are facing divorce, the last one most men think about is whether they are actually the father of their kids. The list of issues is endless and they are enough to break most men financially and emotionally. The internet and all the divorce websites are filled with stories on these issues. When it comes to kids, you almost need a video of your wife molesting your kids to have the advantage in a family court proceeding.
The one issue that seems to be pushed under the rug during this difficult time is whether the kids a woman represented to you that you fathered are actually yours and not some other mans who was having sex with your wife behind your back. She may have taken a vow but the vow means nothing to most women. They will tell any lie necessary to protect or improve their financial status. If you don't think it can happen to you, you are a fool. While men who make less money or have a lower status career are more likely to be victims of this scam, it can happen to a rich guy as well. A woman always wants more than what she has, but if she is married to a millionaire who provides everything, don't think she is satisfied and is going to be loyal. These richer men are actually easier to cheat on and deceive because they walk around thinking their wife will be happy and faithful because he providers everything and treats her well. She was probably bored and cheating on you with a bad boy before and after she thought she had your kids. Your rich ass is boring and predictable. The tattooed guy with bigger muscles and a spotty work history are quite simply more fun to her and fun is easier to have when you have financial security waiting at home when you are taking a break from the fun. There is no window that is not open to your wife if it means infidelity or fun. If your wife was on websites that involved freaky behavior or web sites like hifive.com where you buy and sell people for fun only weeks after giving birth to what you think is your kid, do you think its possible that your kid may not be yours? She might be barely healed from child birth before she is back to her bad behavior. The skilled women will know how to make you feel you are such a wonderful man and father day to day while she has trysts with men whenever she can fit it in to her schedule. Your wife isn't what she presents. You are a means to an end.
My point is that for all you are dealing with once the relationship goes bad, take a step back and look at everything. For many men it is often more than just child support, custody, and alimony. The woman you married is not the one you divorce and you get to know the real her after the divorce process begins. In this world, atleast 20-30% of men who think they are the father of their child are not. You might be married to the perfect soccer mom but don't assume she didn't make a mistake on purpose and have a fling with a man who ended up being the father of your kid.
For all the advantages women have in the family court system, paternity fraud is the worst thing a woman can do. In addition to cheating and then representing a man is the father of her kid when she isn't in order to avoid shame and get her kids taken care of pre and post divorce, court systems do not hold her accountable for such behavior. You can bet she knows everyone she slept with and if there is a chance the husband is not the father of her kids, she will take her own test to confirm the truth so she can plot accordingly. Infidelity works both ways, but when she carries the baby she has the fraud advantage.
I tell all men, including those who are happily married and have new babies, to go get the DNA tests done asap. Its not that expensive and its better to know now. Odds are you are your child's father, but if you aren't you want to know now to avoid the financial and emotional heartbreak that will come later because eventually you will find out or live in a mental prison until you die.
Once you know who your wife actually is and you are now in the divorce process, you will question everything. Some of what you question may be over the top, but once you have been red pilled via divorce, everything seems clear and you know what is and what isn't. Pray that paternity fraud is not an issue on the table as no man deserves to find out he isn't the father of who he thought were his kids.
I never have followed my own advice and despite my doubts, I still cant bring myself to get the test done. Women who do this to a man should go to prison for a long time. The mental prison a man faces when it is a legitimate issue and ignored is much worse.
The Red Devil