As you read through this website and some of the initial blog posts, you might think this is just another women hating site by a man or group of men who hate women, or just want to insult women because they were wronged in a relationship or divorce court. While there are and will be in the future many negative things being said in terms of female behavior, what is said is designed to educate men about female behavior, get them to think about how to prepare for a relationship, and anticipate things the uneducated learn only after it is too late. The love of life and the enjoyment of women should never go away no matter what age you are or what information or horrendous marriage or family court stories you might read about on this blog.
Let me Explain.
When a young man experiences bad luck with women that puts him on a path of inferiority or has a horrible marriage where the woman was everything bad you can think of, one of the ways they deal with it is to completely isolate themselves from women and essentially give up trying to interact with them. Many of these men subscribe to what is called in the manosphere MGTOW or Men Going Their Own Way. Depending on who you talk to, these groups can be men who for whatever reason simply wont interact with a woman for any reason to those that will only interact if they want sex and if it is given to them without the man having to do anything to win the woman's favor. No matter how you define it, MGTOW is a group where women are completely cast aside or to be used and discarded via deceptive tactics. Not cool.
MGTOW is dangerous and a big problem for young men and an excuse and embarrassment for older, never married, or divorced men. This mindset has caused less marriages and less children in western society. In worst cases, this mindset enables addictions that are not healthy and lead to real mental or physical illness. I tell men I coach that no matter how bad things are do not fall into a group or lifestyle that makes the enjoyment of women as a non factor in your life. This does not mean you should be in a relationship constantly, allow women to use or control you, or be completely unaware of the nature of women as long as you can get laid on occasion. Eliminating women from your life is like giving up good food, travel, or owning a sports car because if gives you headaches on occasion.
Men who consider this lifestyle often fall into one of two categories of men. The first one is the younger man who may not be that good looking or does not know how to talk to women. He sees men his own age get beautiful girls with little to no effort for various reasons and the jealousy is off the charts. They continue to try harder, maybe date a little bit, get cheated on, and always end up alone and frustrated. By the time they are 30, they feel everything from their love life to their job to their money situation is failing or behind where they want it to be. The anger and depression leads to hanging out with other depressed dudes playing video games and smoking pot. After awhile they join this he man women haters club where they vow never to get married and live a life of isolation never trying to have a family. They think they have solved their woman problem through abandonment and convince themselves they are happy and will be forever.
This way of dealing with the issues of life as it relates to women and relationships leads to a life of ongoing disappointment and gluttony. If you say that isn't me, I am good looking and successful, its just that women are so bad I am going to stay alone and lift weights and be this awesome dude, then you are truly pathetic. If you do have the advantage of looks and money and still take the MGTOW approach because your cheerleader girlfriend broke up with you for some older dude, then you are an even bigger idiot than the guy who legitimately struggles to meet and date women because of their hypergamous nature. You are only young once guys and if you do not try to interact with women when you are young, it will only be worse when you are older. You do not want to be that 40-50 year old childless man who never got to experience some of the main joys in life because you decided you just werent going to interact with women any longer after some early set backs that could easily be handled with the proper education. That type of life choice and the depression that follows with age is something even a brilliant person like me often cannot help a man recover from and enjoy what life he has left.
As bad as this MGTOW approach is for younger men, it can be just as bad for older men. The men who take up this lifestyle when they are older loved trying to meet women when they were younger. They are usually are coming out of a bad divorce and got the worst end of the finances and custody. Such an event is traumatic, life changing, and makes even a normal man want to ride off in the sunset and never talk to anyone again much less a woman. I get it and I struggle with it. However, this mindset has to be overcome and often requires more positivity from other men rather then the negative reinforcement that seems to be the world today. Men love to see other men fail. They love to laugh and men who got reamed in divorce court. Some of these men are probably your friends and the type of guys to invite you to the next MGTOW meeting. Get away from these dudes.
Getting old sucks. Its harder to stay in shape and be desirable to women. It is also a time where if you handle yourself right, you can be your most attractive to women and have options in terms of their company. Most older men who take the MGTOW mindset have let their looks go, get fat, drink too much, and talk about being alone or going on a fishing trip with other women hating men, these same men who secretly get joy at seeing your misery. If you think this life is great, just watch Married With Children and the old No Ma'am scenes with Al Bundy and his loser friends sitting in their basements just railing on women and offering no appeal to them. This was some of the funniest stuff on TV at the time but 25-30 years later when I am now that age, its not funny at all. You don't want to be that guy. You need to stay in the game as long as you can and it can be enjoyed if you change your mindset and understand what women are. It also takes work to stay mentally and physically strong.
No one has gone through a worse divorce than I have. By the time I am done writing this blog, you will think that no one has a worse attitude towards women than I do. While that may be true on some level, I will never stop trying to meet women and enjoying their company. Life is short and the world is filled with women of all ages, personalities, and some of them can be great company. Despite my hate and anger towards many things, I do not allow this to shape how I behave or appear. I don't walk around bashing women in the presence of other women. I don't talk about my divorce or child custody experience unless I am asked about it by someone who is seriously mature or has been through something similar. Occasionally you meet women who are actually caring and sensitive while providing other benefits for you. They can bring occasional joy and perspective. These positive interactions with women are not achieved without first meeting other women who are absolutely horrible people who only think of themselves and aren't worth your time no matter how big her breasts are or how much she smiles at you like you are the best man ever. These interactions are no different than knowing dudes socially or in the business world. Its part of life. You weed out the bad easier when you understand what you are dealing with and why people behave the way they do.
What men need to understand is how to deal with women and enjoy them, not avoid them. You want to avoid any human that is bad and some show their stripes quicker than others, but you don't want to just say I am not going to deal with any women no matter what justifying a decision with whatever makes you feel best. Women are to be enjoyed and as a man you should always have your eyes and ears open for the good ones that appear. It does not mean you will get married again. It means you enjoy what the world has to offer on your terms, not hers. If you get educated when you are young, which is the goal of this website, then you can enjoy a life filed with experiences involving women. These experiences might include divorce or other lies and betrayal, but you cant not live life.
If you are reading this you have probably been through something bad or lack some confidence that can easily be fixed. You may even have hate in your heart. Whatever you do avoid the negativity of others which are often the frame of groups like MGTOW and seek your own path which should always include the enjoyment of women on your terms. If Men United can help you understand this mindset, get in touch with us.
The Red Devil