Revisiting the Concept of MGTOW

'As a man gets older, if he has any confidence, he looks forward to his time alone. His family and work responsibilities may not allow him he wants for himself. If he is blessed with a great wife and kids, he really does not mind. However, when things go bad in his marriage, or he feels taken advantage of to the point it seems he is nothing but an emotional or financial crush for someone who shows no love or respect, he has to make life changing decisions or accept what is being done to him which can speed up aging or the development of bad habits or addictions. 

As men become more aware of the nature of women through experience and Red Pill education, there is quite a movement for men to just avoid the relationship and interaction and not play the game. This concept of MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) certainly has value, but we as men, especially those who have been through a marriage, divorce, and all the female behavior designed to isolate us from our money and our children, have to be careful how we implement this concept in our own lives and even more careful when it comes to giving advice to younger men.

There is nothing worse than a married man, or a man who has children and has been married, to tell a young man to be MGTOW or never get married or have kids. There are too many men with a wealth of knowledge who arent practicing what they preach. This advice they give can be meaningful and save men much heartache, but it is misguided and not coming from a place of hypocrisy. It is like your dad telling you not to smoke while continues to smoke two packs a day or someone who has never lost a child giving you advice on how to handle the grief of losing a child. This does not mean MGTOW is a bad concept or a way of life for loser men who have given up or cant get women. On the contrary, there are many men who live this lifestyle who can get women easier then men who are younger and better looking but they choose to be isolated. MGTOW however is never a good way of life for a young man who hears the stories of older men who lost their wives, families, and money to a system. As someone who experienced this, I would never tell young men to be  MGTOW.

Any normal man should want a wife and kids no matter how bad things are in the court system and with female nature. If you think otherwise or encourage young men not to pursue some of life's joys because of what might happen down the road, you are giving bad advice especially if you are coming from a place of having been married and someone who had kids. I married a horrible woman and went through a bad divorce where I watched a system rape me of everything yet I would not tell a young man not to get married or have kids. The two biggest blessings of my life are the two daughters I got from my marriage. Despite the attempts at alienation I was lucky enough to overcome it and enjoy a relationship with them that I would bet is better than the one they have with their mother. Even if I had the knowledge I have now as an older man, if I had simply chosen the MGTOW lifestyle and never married or had kids, i would be in a position of many men I know my age who for all the money they have, are very unfulfilled men. For my lack of awareness until my divorce rape, I always knew I wanted kids from a young age and not having them would have caused more anger than all the anger I have from how I was treated by my wife and the court system. The advice that you dont need to get married to have kids is also a bit misguided. It creates a new set of problems that is for another conversation and not likely to lead to proper development of kids even when compared to kids of divorce.

MGTOW however is an important and valuable concept for divorced men with kids or even older men who are not in a relationship and struggle to find female attention. MGTOW men are not men who cannot get women and are usually the smartest men on the ways of women. They have chosen to not deal with female behavior and this can be an enlightening way of life that allows for clear thinking and financial happiness. The older I get, the less time I want to spend with women and I value my alone time. A man who gets divorced after a long marriage or one that involves kids often makes a big mistake and jumps in to another marriage or relationship. With age comes the desire to overcompensate so more money can be spent or more aggressive approaches are used to get the females attention and that makes a man even more susceptible to being taken advantage of by women who simply want a mans money. The older a man gets, the less value he has to a woman. Men can use their money to buy the attention of youth and that is fine if you know why you are doing it and that the woman could care less about you, but older women, even those with money and some of their looks from youth, have very little appeal to men other than as a older woman fetish that does not last. Women do better at being alone than men however as we age. Therefore the MGTOW concept is a way of understanding and practicing how to live a life as a man without the company of women because it makes him happier day to day. It is not a way of life that loser men celebrate because they cannot do well in the sexual marketplace. Embrace it as you need to as an older man but dont let it rule your life because you are trying to show women that you are finally on to their ways.

I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for young men as early as age 16-18 to understand the nature of women so they can learn to control the narrative of their interactions with them. You are only young once and if you can develop the confidence needed to deal with women you are going to be very successful in all aspects of life. As a young man I was as good looking and athletic as you can ask for and walked with an air of confidence that attracted many women to me. I had so many advantages that other guys my age did not have yet I had a long term girlfriend who treated me like crap for years and I was too insecure to do anything about it. I didnt have the confidence to walk away. I was as blue pilled as you get. While men dont come in to who the are until about age 26, with some guidance as a younger man I could have made better decisions and found a female who would have been better for me. Instead my insecurities pushed back the time I felt I could get a great wife and have a family. Even with everything going right outside of dating, I was unable to find a wife and the next thing you know you are on the other side of 30 trying to marry a decent woman and have a family. The end result was a bad choice that I paid for in so many ways. You do not want to get married at age 35. If not for the ability to get pregnant quickly I may not have even gotten kids. If I had been educated as a young man(my father was clueless and he was from a generation where people married young and stayed married so you didnt need to know about women as you were staying married no matter what absent very weird events), then I would have been able to use my blessings to become more confident and maybe find a wife and have kids at a young age.

Even if you are able to learn what you need to as a young man, there is still a 80% chance your marriage will end in divorce or you will be stuck in misery because you wont leave your wife. You need to be able to handle things once you do get divorced and MGTOW is a great perspective and way of life. A man who lives this life post divorce is not a loser or an angry man. He is an aware man. He can enjoy his life on his own terms and have occasional interaction with women without having to be in a relationship. It is really the ideal lifestyle post divorce or once you realize you are not going to have kids. We do need to be careful how we encourage this lifestyle though. It is not for young men and never should be advocated by men who are married with kids when talking to younger men. We as a country need to encourage families and getting started when we are young. Men need to learn about the nature of women so we can make better decisions at a time in life so if divorce happens, it is happening when we are younger which means less financial loss, or at a time when kids are grown and their is no custody battle. Divorce is never good and while it is tough for a man to lose his money to a woman, the fight over kids and the crazy child support that comes with divorcing with young kids destroys so much more.

Think about who and where you get your advice. Understand where you are in life and that MGTOW has its place in our overall happiness as men.