One of the people i admired most in life was my father. He didn't have the best childhood and dealt with parents who were divorced. He didn't go to college. He survived a tour in Vietnam and managed to carve out a career working with the same company for 40 years. He was lucky to marry my mother who came from the same type of background. They stayed married for 40 years until his death at age 62 from a horrible cancer that resulted from years of hiding his life's pain and tragedy in food and a sedentary life. I never really knew about any of it because he and my mother made sure my sister and I had all the opportunities they could afford and then some. I had an ideal childhood with strict but fair parents and had no idea they were barely making ends meet.
Despite all the hardships of life my parents got married and stayed together. There was no social media or even an internet. They didn't tell total strangers every time they washed their car or went to a concert yet they socialized with people. They were in a bowling league and one of the highlights of my week would be able to go with them, see the other kids, and play pinball machines and video games from the late 70s and early 80s. The lived a normal life and the priority was family and helping others. We even went to church every Sunday and I watched my dad place an envelope in the plate not knowing he could have used that money to help pay a bill that was likely overdue. Was he happy? I think he was. Was my mother happy? I think she was also. Their lives were like most peoples of the time and probably similar to their parents but with cable TV and an extra car. The kids even talked to each other face to face and made dates and really got to know each other beyond how they looked. Today people don't meet, look at a picture, and don't really connect. Men are soon going to show women nothing but their bank accounts and property the way women post their boobs and ass. How can that possibly lead to anything meaningful and it is going to be up to men to change the way we date.
Relationships have always evolved throughout time. While it would be foolish to think people were not unfaithful and there was not physical or mental abuse in marriages, other peoples lives were rarely in your face. This would give most people the chance to create a family life with respectful children who hopefully longed for the same things when they became adults. You would learn how to treat people based on how you were raised and what you saw. Every new generation becomes exposed to more and we look at past generations for their good but also their boredom and simplicity. There is a reason people are always inventing things. We want more opportunities, exposure, and overall enjoyment of life. The technology that exists now is not based on how to get somewhere faster like a car, but to advertise ourselves as individuals as who and what we are. Our character seems to matter a lot less than it did and it shows in our leaders and mentors. It had also devalued the individual and greatly reduced women's ability to pair bond with another man.
At what point do we ask ourselves how the evolution of technology and human behavior causes problems that will take generations to fix? Most generations evolution is slower. Was there that much of a difference between a generation that grew up in say 1850 versus 1880. Most of the day to day values were the same and while there were inventions that made life easier, these changes were minimal compared to 20th century generations. If we fast forward and look at say kids from the 1920s versus the 1950s were there more differences? There definitely was but family values were still very similar in our country. At some point there are changes that effect human behavior. The telephone is one example. The internet is another. These major inventions were improved after they were created.
What is my point you ask? My point is that were are now in a time where major inventions have drastically changed how people meet and date and most men, while fully participating in it, still think they can meet a woman, date conventionally, and find a quality wife to have a family. It simply cannot be done but until men learn the new rules of dating and marriage, we will continue to run over by women both emotionally and financially. If men continue to believe they can create these perfect families with loyal women, they are going to end up alone and childless. Wanting a family and kids is not something that men are going to give up on, but they are unable to achieve it because they do not know how to manage women while also having the confidence to walk away from women who have become so addicted to attention and social media platforms such as Facebook and Instagram.
Generation Xers are probably the last generation to live in a world where they saw their parents live like the Cleavers and many of us had a Wally and Beaver or Fathers know best lifestyle. We were getting lessons to get a college degree and get educated before marriage. We found ourselves even if everything went right getting married and trying to build a family just as internet dating was coming out. Once we were married and more social media platforms arrived, we saw what our wives or girlfriends truly were as people. While alcoholism might have destroyed many marriages in years past, the new drug and alcohol was the internet and bored women not getting enough attention from their husbands. Matters were made worse by a complete and total unawareness of the family court system and the advantage women had over men who now more then ever were becoming successful. The epidemic of divorce rape and parental alienation by women is now common place to the point it has made men doubt who they are and in some cultures completely disappear from trying to date or have kids. This will be downfall of the western world unless we fix it and start holding women to better standards by displaying confidence that so many of us lacked because we were desperate to be married and have a family.
Instead of trying to be what our parents were, we need to educate ourselves and train our behavior as men so women will value us. Every young man should have a mentor, hopefully his father, who has been through a bad marriage and financial rape, to teach him how to handle women. My father was a great man but he had nothing to teach me about women as he got married young and had a good family. Women today are not like my mother yet we as men are still like our fathers. What caused women to be this way is for another discussion but they have used the internet and social media to teach each other how to use men for financial gain and attention. The State supports this behavior so it is up to men to correct our behavior so women either fall in line or end up alone or as single mothers. While being divorced is not a stain on a woman like it used to be 50 years ago, there is something wrong when beautiful women are walking around today having been married twice, have kids where the dad does not even speak to or wants no part of them, and are still posting stuff all over Facebook about their dating and parental lives like it is a success to be where they are in life. The men who were involved in them are filled with anger and sit in silence because they see being divorced and isolated from their kids while having their hard earned money taken from them by the State as an embarrassment even if they did nothing to cause the divorce.
I will never be an advocate of not dating or getting married because I am worried the women might be a horrible person. That is the easy way out. I know many MGTOW guys who while perfectly capable of meeting and dating women who simply avoid them at all costs. I understand. There are more men who simply do not know how to meet or date a woman because they have not learned on how to be with women on their terms. Women should be a compliment to a mans life not his priority. He needs to be able to take or leave any woman. If the woman treats you with respect and admiration then she deserves your attention. If she behaves like she only cares about what you can do for her financially, then you get away from her as fast as possible. That is what I did. I walked away from a beautiful woman who I had two young kids with because despite wanting to be like my father in terms of how I provided for my family, I was not going to be used by someone who clearly cared nothing for me and only saw me as a wallet and a sperm donor for her kids because I was the guy who was around when she was ready to do what she had to do to get her kids and secure her financial future through my hard work. I still thank God for giving me the courage to do this because this was before the information men are now teaching each other was available in the massive amounts it is today. Most men faced with the situation I was in stayed in their marriage and years later they are even more miserable or now that they are seeing the light, the wife has already or is in the process of raping them for even more money in divorce court.
If you are a father with a son and have been through the divorce and child custody wars it is your duty to teach your son how to manage women and still have kids and maybe even a family. This starts with modern day dating techniques that involve making your son be a better and more dominant man. If you are a man who does not have a mentor to teach you these things, find one. The money I save men and the lessons I teach are worth the time and investment. Having knowledge about your enemy is the biggest boost of confidence heading in to battle. Despite my experiences with women I still want to spend time with them. Had I known what I know now when I was 20, my dating and married life would have been totally different. The mistakes I made when dating as a young man make me cringe and these mistakes lead me to make bad decisions in later relationships that caused financial and mental hardship that no good man deserved. What I learned from these experiences need to be shared with other men as we are in the process or transitioning from a generation of men who see family like the Cleavers on one level to a new set of men who dont know how to manage dating and women and are going to get buried. The end result if we do not help each other with these changes is going to be a culture of Americans, and you know who I am talking about, who will shun family and shun kids for a life of porn and video games. We cant fix women as they are only destroying themselves with all this social media, but we can still manage them to our advantage. If we dont do it, the USA will die off more so than it already has because of how the modern day female. Without family, children raised in a two parent home, and church, the culture will die off.
Time to wake up men and start learning how to be men so the bad or damaged women can be avoided no matter how pretty they are. Once we get ourselves straight, the women who value what our parents did will fall in line and we can build families were women's hypergamy is kept in check.
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