Once a man learns that Family Court is not his friend, the sooner he will learn to prepare for his Divorce. Most men heading into the Divorce environment have no clue about what is coming or what the rules are. I can say that and I have a damn law license. Most men do not go into marriage even thinking about divorce. Women are the opposite. Whether it be on their own or through the help of other women, women know the important divorce laws inside and out. They want to marry successful men for a reason. If they don't get their way during the marriage and it ends, they get paid. Men learn this too late but men who have been through it need to start teaching other men how all of this works.
One common issue I see is the vindictiveness of women even if the divorce is on their terms. They want you punished in every way possible and it goes beyond getting more than her share of the financial resources. One thing most of them do is once the divorce becomes inevitable is they start to remove your personal items from your home. Stuff that matter to you most, which has no value, starts to disappear. While you as a man are aware of your stuff and what matters, you don't do a daily check in to make sure it is where you keep it. Whether you have it on display or in a drawer, your not thinking about it every day. Your wife is. She knows exactly what matters to you most personally and even if it has no monetary value, it has value to you and she is going to steal it. The things my wife made disappear were some of the most important things that mattered to me. You might ask why I didn't notice? When you are under the stress of a divorce and likely having to leave your marital home, you want to get your stuff packed up and out of there as quickly as possible. If you have lots of stuff, you are not going to miss things immediately but once you are out of the house and you can do inventory, you suddenly realize what was taken. You cant get back into the house you left and your wife is going to deny all accusations you make about what she took. The items that she stole that had value that you can replace you forget those and just rebuy them but the personal stuff you owned cannot be replaced. Once I saw the things that were taken from me, I felt rage and heartbreak all at the same time. The denials made it even worse. The positive I took out of all of it was that in my quest for trying to find a reason for why I might have doubted leaving my wife was the right decision, the only thing I could find were more and more reasons it was the smart decision. As a married man I was pretty blue pilled. I did all that I was supposed to do and what I thought men were supposed to do. Once I took the red pill and started asking questions, the divorce came because she now knew you were on to her and her bad character that she was hiding didn't have to be hidden any more. Its a real awakening and while it seems to be more and more popular to discuss this from a mans point of view and give advice, it was so obvious what was going on that even a simp like me many years ago could spot it. Despite what I was seeing I never thought someone who I provided a great life for and allowed to be a stay at home mom would steal my personal things because we were getting divorced.
Family courts will not help you guys. If you go in there saying she stole x y and z, she will deny it and the Judge will dismiss you. They simply don't have time to fight over little things that may not have much value but have personal value. Your soon to be ex wife has that list so the best thing to do is get your mindset straight before you divorce. Men need to know where there stuff is and take anything personal out of the house the minute the divorce becomes an option. It will save a lot of heartache. Men dont steal like this from women as even the worst man is rarely going to take personal things from an ex unless the plan is to convert it to money. Men and women both steal for a variety of reasons but only women make it personal no matter how good you were to them in marriage and no matter how much money they get in the divorce despite contributing nothing.
In todays world men must be prepared for the divorce battle long before it gets to that point. It is a sad world we live in where women now more than ever control the relationship narrative. If you are an alpha successful man you might get lots of women, but while you are walking around proud of your beautiful giant breasted wife and all your achievements, she is likely planning how to maximize her recovery should you want a divorce or she simply decides she wants to be a single mom because she wants to date new men or simply get away from you while she lives the single life you are paying for. No man is immune to the behavior of these women who get away with it because looks are the prize for men when it comes to women. If you are the average guy with an average job who just wants to have a family and live like your parents did with a couple of kids, you are facing a battle today to where even getting your average woman to be your wife and have kids with you is near impossible. Without the right attitude and support, while you may not get divorced raped like the typical alpha guy does, you end up alone playing video games and drinking real quick.
Stealing is just an example of why men need to get their mindset about women and marriage straight long before they deal with it. We all hope to be married for life, but odds are we wont even if we do get married and are lucky enough to have a family. Therefore men must continue to educate themselves on the ways of women and the court system so they can control the narrative a bit better when the divorce hits. It is never good advice to avoid the marriage game if you want kids, but if you are going to play know what you are going up against so you don't lose your personal items from someone who is simply going to hurt you out of spite like mine did by amongst other things, taking what was the most valuable to me and making it disappear. It has happened to many others and will to you as well if you don't prepare. If you don't think it matters, take something small like a watch or other momento that your father gave you and just throw it in the trash and then you will understand that this is just another issue men deal with in silence because no one really cares, especially the person you married who stole it from you.
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