The manosphere and many a divorce lawyers office are filled with stories from men about women who suddenly decided they no longer wanted to be married or even worse behaved in such a way where the man had no choice but to leave and file for divorce or live a life as a doormat. This does not even count the stories of infidelity or just flat out disrespect. Most men are too arrogant or ignorant to understand that a woman will never be loyal to him and she shows it through her behavior soon after the honeymoon period is over.
Instead of trying to understand why women are the way they are, what men need to understand is to accept how women are and make life choices based on the inevitable devaluation that will take place in the relationship. Just because a woman marries you does not mean she sees you any different than any other man she has dated. If you aren't her first husband you are likely going to pay for the sins of the men before her especially the man she married. Being a second husband is one of the dumbest mistakes a man can make and I can say that from experience. I had no chance at loyalty or admiration. That option was used up long ago on some other dudes even if for a brief moment before her relationship ended. Does that mean you go into monk mode and never date or marry? No. Men need to simply understand how women behave and recognize it so they can make relationship choices that work best for them.
I have always been an advocate of getting married young and having kids as early as possible which is something I believed even when I was young but was unable to achieve. While financially it might make things a bit tougher when compared to first establishing a career, it eliminates a mans financial exposure for child support and allows him to rebuild once the relationship goes bad. It is so much easier to deal with divorce at age 35 with older kids than at 40 with younger kids or even at age 50 with teenagers. Odds are you will get divorced or be in a relationship with a woman that has devalued you and will have an affair or just flat out disrespect you. If you get married young and it lasts you have a rare gift and no amount of sex with others you miss out on is worth losing that type of relationship. They died off with out parents and grandparents when society was a lot better and people showed more respect for each other.
Men need to learn that women are always looking for a better deal. If she can be better financially she will leave you for someone else. If you are the Alpha Dog provider, she might not leave, but she is going to have affairs both physical and emotional. This desire for better security and attention has caused them to have no character and use men in ways that men either don't recognize or ignore because they want kids or love a giant set of breasts even if access is temporary.
Instead of trying to fix or understand why women are this way, men must make life decisions accordingly so when things go bad to the point the trade he is making day to day to be with the woman isnt worth it, he can walk away without the emotional damage that comes with ignorance. Men are naturally loyal but in today's world he cannot be and maintain his sanity.
All men need to ask themselves why they are getting in to relationships and what they are willing to tolerate in order to get what they want from a woman. If it is anything other than kids, the trade you are making is not worth it. To have the awareness to where you actually see and recognize how your woman treats you and over time devalues you is very painful. Knowing when she finds richer, better looking, or just someone who will give her more attention she will leave you, it is tough to watch. You can do nothing about it however. You cant change her. The prettier she is the less of a chance you have to keep her attention long term no matter how much you try. Is the sex worth it? It shouldn't be. You can get that without being tied to a woman.
The desire for kids with a pretty and smart woman is mans kryptonite. We all manage it differently but it is there. For all the horrible treatment and devaluation I suffered while married, it was still worth it because of the gift of my kids who are healthy, smart, and attractive. The money paid out to the ex was worth it once I chose to walk out because I could not stand the thievery, devaluation, and disloyalty. It is tough to get the mental strength to accept that no matter how much you love someone, how well you provide, or how well you treat them, you cant make a person loyal, or behave with character. She will lie and steal to better herself. You simply need to decide what you can accept to pursue your goals of being around her. It could be kids. It could be sex. It could be just having a pretty woman with giant boobs on your arm. Failing to understand what women are is going to be your emotional destruction on top of everything else if you dont make the deal with yourself. Anything other than kids should be a no deal kind of set up.
Once everything goes bad, a well trained man can navigate the loss of the relationship because he isn't losing anything in terms of his relationship. He isn't losing someone who loves or cares. He isn't losing a loyal partner. He isn't losing someone who thinks of someone other than her or her kids which are essentially props to get things she needs for herself. You are losing nothing you would expect a partner to bring as a person. Does this mean a man is happy when his relationship is gone or his family is broken up? Deep down he isn't but its better than being stuck in negativity and disrespect that came with the woman. Even if men become aware of the true nature of women, then why are men angry and filled with hate toward exes and date less after their marriage breaks up? It is simple really. It is the court system that favors women. The man is not upset he lost a wife. He's upset she gets rewarded financially and he has to spend tons of money to possibly see his kids equally despite the fact her mental abuse is likely why the marriage ended. Fix this problem by eliminating alimony, not assuming a 50% split of the assets when one spouse earns it all and the other is addicted to porn on a computer or cant even keep a house clean, and forcing a wife to pay her husbands lawyer fees if she chooses to fight an equal custody arrangement. Steps like these are just the beginning to build a foundation for eliminating male anger but also destroying the family court system which is just a money grab for lawyers and a redistribution of wealth by the State.
Think about these things when you are entering a relationship with a woman and over time the woman will understand that you see what she is and that you don't care one bit when the relationship ends. What you do care about(your money and your kids) are what she wants to take which basically reaffirms that loyalty and character do not apply to women and protecting them should be your priority. Let the woman go.
Learn this now as a young man and live a life you control with kids and maybe the rare woman who appreciates you as a man or learn this later while you get divorce raped, lose access to your kids, and get into an emotional state that causes your life to lack enjoyment because you thought the woman you married might actually be loyal.
The Red Devil