Why would anyone get married if they wanted to be a single parent? A man certainly does not. If he gets divorced with kids, his life is going to be full of added grief and frustration. Unlike women, men typically don't have awareness of the ramifications of being a single parent until it is too late. By the time the marriage is over and the man learns what he is facing, there is nothing he can do. Women on the other hand, likely married the man she did because she knew she wanted to be a single mom at some point when it would best benefit her. Women don't really want to be married, but for most women they simply cant or wont just get a man to donate some sperm without the marriage because of how it appears. They need to be able to present as a victim with proper values and morals when needed so they get married and when it ends on their terms, they now have someone to blame for their failures while gaining the control over the children and a mans finances while also receiving adulation from an ever accepting society that praises single moms for being survivors and heroes. This image isn't so easy if they just start having kids with the type of men who like sex but don't want to have a family. Even most whorish women don't want to appear as such and having multiple kids without a marriage tied to it, even if they later divorce, really makes them look bad.
If women don't want to be married and will not carry their weight in a marriage once it takes place, what is a man to do? There is nothing the man can do other than understand what he is signing up for and whether the desire for a family outweighs how the mother of his kids will behave when she is ready. Thinking a woman is going to behave honorably just because she chooses to marry you is a mindset men must eliminate from their thoughts. Ask a married woman why she married the man she is with and the top answer will likely be "he is a good provider". That is basically the equivalent of a man saying he married a woman because she has giant boobs or the perfect ass. While the female response generates positive acceptance from society, a man who says why he married the woman, while likely true, makes him look like a pig. These opposite mindsets and how they are perceived by society is a big reason why the court system favors women. Women know that even if they dont get one of those "good providers. they have the State to take the kids from the man and to become her provider by controlling the man. Once you understand the female mindset you can make decisions that best work for your desire for children or even a period of time to play family. When it ends, and it likely will, you are in the best position to handle what will be a traumatic experience no matter how well you prepare your future.
If you do not want children, do not ever get married. Sadly most men do want kids however no matter who aware they are of female behavior. Knowing that a man likely needs a woman to help him get kids, how he navigates this process will determine his future mental and financial health. While younger women love the idea of marriage and want to get engaged before all their friends so they can show off, they don't really want to be married or be a contributor to a marriage. Women who marry young are very likely to want out at some point whether it be 5 years or 10 years down the road. The reasons vary but it is still likely to happen even if you may get some genuine love and affection for awhile that rarely comes from women over 30.They go from loving the story of being married they can present to their friends to waking up one day and realizing they gave up their prime years and now want to play with some new friends they met at the gym while you are out being a "good provider" . Women who wait to get married until they are after 30 not only are unlikely to be able to bond with a man because they have had so much sex with so many men, their window for children is getting smaller by the day which puts your decision to marry is an even riskier proposition. They would like nothing better than to find a successful man to give her a baby so she can divorce him on demand and take all his prime earning years of his mid to late 30s all the way to 50 and beyond. When the divorce happens, they move on so quick yet the alimony and child support checks are coming in at peek value because you stupidly waited to get married until you were established in what you think is a career. A woman who marries younger may divorce you but you may be that one special guy in her life for various reasons. This often makes divorce and co parenting a little easier. Women who are over 30 getting married who later divorce would just as soon she you living in the streets even if you are the father of her kids because she is incapable of bonding and you are just another man who disappointed her while reminding her or her mistake she didn't marry young or heaven forbid you arent her first marriage and she needs to punish you because the first one, who she might have loved briefly, got away.
If women want to be single moms, and they do, if you want kids what do you do? If you understand what she is, what her desires are, and that who you are plays no factor in her behavior, you are halfway there. You need to get married young and start having your kids before you make money. There is a small chance you might get lucky and meet that sweet rare woman who values family and what a husband means allowing for a long term or even life time marriage. You might have a real chance to build what families should be in our country if it is going to survive. While most relationships are nothing but lies, there is nothing better than one built on respect and teamwork and maybe even some long lasting love. It can happen but only when you are young. If you wait until you or a woman is after 30, forget it. The agenda she carries will cause the marriage to be destroyed and the financial payoff to be at its max for the woman. If a woman who marries in her twenties may take a few years to realize she wants to be a single mom, a woman who marries in her thirties is planning to be a single mom when she meets you. You are just the guy who is around at the time she needs to have her babies or plot the biggest financial payoff. Men dont think like this at all.
Getting married young will allow you to be in a position where even if the marriage goes bad and you are going to get divorce raped, your kids are older and your financial responsibility less because you are not likely at your maximum earning age or time. What is most important is if you divorce after marrying young, you can be done with all the child support and alimony payments and maybe still be in your early 40s where you are really starting to earn. You also are not so old that you cannot do well with ladies who appreciate your success and stability. This does not mean remarry. If you have had your kids and don't see a new woman as the mother of more of your kids, you can enjoy her on your terms. You will control the narrative when it comes to dating while also holding on to your money. Delaying marriage until you are in your thirties for whatever reason is going to cause you to make some big mistakes that will cost you more later in life. When you are thirty plus and still want kids, its not going to be as easy to meet a woman in her early to mid twenties to have a family. Women who want kids young and are willing to marry rarely marry a guy who is much older than they are. Your fantasy of building your career and appearing rich in your thirties while you date young women in their twenties is not the recipe for even a temporary marriage that could possibly last. A woman who is that young who marries up is very aware and wont even hide that she wants your money. Any woman you choose after 30 is going to get your prime earning years and if you are at or near the same age, while it might look good on the surface, these women are even more experienced and will be more stealth in their desire to be a single mom. A woman who waits until shes over 30 to get married and have kids either never wanted to be married or is settling for you because you just happen to be that guy who is around at the time she needs to have her kids before it is too late. There is nothing that is a bigger kick in the teeth for a guy pushing 50 as when this suddenly becomes reality and you are left paying out max money to a woman approaching the wall but still has no problem getting men to pay attention to her because she was and still may be attractive. No matter how rich you are, you don't want to be in your fifties trying to date. You might as well skip it and just pay hookers. While it may not be much easier for women at the same age, they don't care as they still don't have to put out any effort. The men older women attract may be less quality, it is on their terms which allows for attention and control which is fuel for these needs that last until they die. They have your money and their kids and can put on an act of happiness that no man can match because they are single, can play victim as needed, and have you as as an extra source of income. This was their goal either from the minute they married you or realized that no matter who or what you are, you cannot meet their demand for attention which causes them to want to be the single mom.
There are always going to be exceptions to every rule. You might be the lucky guy who meets a nice girl at a young age and you build a life with a great family. That is reality for very few men however in today's throw away and Instagram look at me society. You still want kids though. As a man who married a horrible woman who used a court system to take my wealth while trying to alienate me from my kids with no ramifications, I am blessed beyond belief with two daughters who I am to this day close with and who see what kind of man I am every day. These relationships are priceless and seeing how naive I was for so long, I was genuinely lucky to be in the wrong place at the wrong time when the mother of my kids did what she needed to do to get her kids and her money so she could be a single mom enjoying the freedoms that come with it because of how she timed her marriage and has the State to enforce her demand money she does not need because I am considered a "good provider". No matter the negativity that happened to me, I am very much to blame for it because I allowed it to happen due to delaying marriage and not being educated on the nature of women. You do not want to be a 35 year old man, no matter how successful, trying to find a wife of quality. Getting married is easy and impregnating a woman is easy, but if you pick a bad one because your time is running out to have kids, she will punish you. Her agenda makes a mid thirties man an easy mark and you let a lot of the obvious be ignored because of how she looks or that you have put your need for kids first over any qualities you might hope for in a wife. My lack of awareness is very much my fault and it is all I can do now to keep young men from being in my position when there are better ways to live life.
What you men need to understand is the female mindset and how to combat it while also allowing yourself to have kids. If you want kids do not just stick your head in the sand and not play the game. You will be 35-40 with no kids and lots of regret no matter how much money you have or how many gold diggers you sleep with thinking they liked you and not what you bought them. Regret is not something you want on your deathbed. You have to interact with women with the right mindset and the only way to combat these women are for older men to educate younger men on why it may make sense to give up the freedom of your twenties to save heartache in your forties and fifties that drive many men to drinking, drug use, video game or porn addiction, or too often suicide. Many young men don't have a father who can or will do it for a variety of reasons. My father was the last of a generation where most couples stayed married for life and had no clue about female behavior because like many men, they married women of quality who valued family. The world is no longer like that sadly but the information is out there so men don't have any excuses and need to be prepared
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